We share fantasies sometimes, the other day she told me she has been having mfm fantasies. I am not very well endowed, and sometimes lack at what it takes to satisfy her. I can tell she is fustrated with my size. She told me the fantasy included me, but should I still be concern?
2006-09-29 10:04:09 · 26 answers · asked by Steve J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think so. SHe is not having fantasies that exclude you completely. she may just want a DP, I know I do and can't wait to we find the right third for that.
2006-09-29 10:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really depends a whole lot on how honest you really are with each other.
1. You didn't say you have been together but I would guess your size must have NOT been a total turn off to her or she would have went elsewhere.
2. Depending on her libido and what she requires learning/knowing how to use what you DO have ,to meet her needs, is a big factor. THIS IS WHERE YOU HAVE TO BE SECURE WITH YOUR EGO.
3. Sharing your fantasies AND including each other is a very productive/loving/trusting way to meet her needs. Don't be too quick to think negative of HER thought feelings. Remember she does include you mentally.
There are many people are not physically able to have/perform intercourse. They may have an illness, paralyzed etc, but they still find a way to remain and grow together. If they can do it with NO size (working equipment) then it would be much easier for you to learn and concentrate on HER and not CONCERNS.
Good luck.
2006-09-29 10:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by GERALD S. MCSEE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly in my opinion it all depends on who you are and how you feel. If it makes you uncomfortable to do something like that don't try jus b/c you think it will help out. Thats the worse thing you can do. So how do you correct the problem??? Well you jus need to find ways to spice up your sex life. A woman does have needs but at the same time you in a marriage. So as long as she is your wife then you both need to sit down and figure out what it is thats really going on. She's hinting at something but it doesnt matter, if she doesnt tell you straight up what the real reason shes feeling that way. So jus sit her down and ask her the real problem. And if its not a problem, she's jus curious type thing. Then its on you. Would you be able to walk away from something like that and be satisfied with what you did??????? If you already know deep in your heart that you would get pissed off then DONT DO IT!!!!! Communication is the key.
2006-09-29 10:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by a1b2c3d4bj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously seems to like the idea of anal, and if you aren't long enough for it, no prob. Get her to mount you and either use a dildo or a finger or two and play with her *** while you make love. And although it shouldnt have to be said, you should be going down on her at least as much as she does you. Whatever you do, dont eat out her ***. Thats just gross dude, don't try to get all freaky in one step. We all have to keep the love alive in the bedroom. If you only have like one or two moves you need to learn to loosen up and try something different. You dont have to have a shaq sized d ick to be a good lover, remember that.
2006-09-29 10:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by vinny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well nowadays with the whole fantasy issue that can be solved if u and your wife take a stroll through a sex shop they have extenders and vibrators to put at the tip of your penis and also strap ons to just make it bigger maybe u should try a few things like that out it couldn't hurt after all she loves you and u love her u have to try new things with the one u love
2006-09-29 10:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by Ray_Ray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sharing fantasies is a good thing. You should worry when she is cheating on you. Have fun with the fantasies. Bring toys into the bedroom so you can satisfy her. Then let her satisfy you. See. Everyone is happy.
2006-09-29 10:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by dianee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no you should not be concern. she love you and she will stay with you.. what you might wont to try is she is looking for a more endowed unit then i would pick up a strap on and us it on her. she can all so get a sec fantasies of a DP if she into that.. good luck..
2006-09-29 10:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sharing fantasies is just that, sharing...It doesn't mean you have to act on them. However, you might consider buying her a vibrator which could to some degree help you alone act out her fantasy without bringing in someone else.
2006-09-29 10:06:19 · answer #8 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't be TO concerned because at least you're in her fantasy. But I would talk to her just to make sure!!
Hope I helped!!
2006-09-29 10:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you dont have to worry since she wants you involved. I suggest that you tell her you would like to watch a well hung stud f**k her while she s**ks you off and see if she is willing. If she says yes then by all means do it. You will love it. You are one lucky guy.
2006-09-29 18:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by unionjack07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋