im a competitive person. have worked hard in life. but at 24 am still 4 years behind my peers and im jealous..

Question

I wont graduate from college until im 26. And I havent had time for really any relationships with a woman. but, now seriously here, i really think im smarter than most people, and i know for a fact that i am a harder worker.....but i feel soo far behind in every way. and because ive worked so damn hard im jealous. ...i dont want to get a job when i graduate and have my boss be younger than me. ...how can i deal with these jealousy issues? thanks.

btw dont say see a psychologist. i dont want any bologna referal answers like that. thanks.

Answer 1

as hard as this sounds.
try not to waste your energy comparing yourself to others.
you are you and that is all that counts.


you mention "behind in every other way"
so improve yourself in those areas that are of concern to you.

good luck.

Answer 2

Who says there is a certain age that you have to graduate from college? It sounds like you have alot to be proud of; you're smart, a hard worker, and motivated. Most 24 year olds can't say that. You won't necessarily have a younger boss either. Things in your life are happening for a reason in their own time. Don't worry so much and enjoy the success you've already achieved. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Give up competition. You're not good at it. Cooperate with someone who finds use for your talents (if any) in their own competitive endeavor.

And of course you shouldn't see a psychologist. Jealousy has a strange satisfaction for some people, and psychologists will just do something to destroy that perverse drive.

Answer 4

~Since you are so smart, so ambitious, so industrious and since seeking professional advice from one trained to help you deal with your obvious narcissism and megalomania is beneath you, I guess to one with your eminent qualifications, Yahoo Answers is an appropriate source of enlightenment for you. You fail to mention why you are so far behind your peers, who are so clearly inferior to you or why your social and emotional development were arrested but I imagine your attitude and your personality have something to do with it. I suppose you'll just have to get used to the fact that your boss earned the position through tenure, hard work, intelligence and merit regardless of age and all your advanced years entitle you to is a few extra candles on your birthday cake (which, I presume, you will have to bake or buy yourself and which you undoubtedly will have to eat alone). Best advice: grow up and concentrate on becoming a real person.

Answer 5

At the age of 24 you still have a lot of living and learning to go.
I was once like you, but life taught me that the only yardstick to use is my own perceptions of truth in my life and my families.
Oftentimes we find that those that we think are doing so well are living a lie and feel trapped in the hell they have created.

Answer 6

Same situation.

Don't think of it as being behind.

Think of it as building up momentum so that you can shoot past them later- Plus, you can get some smug feeling of superiority having to work and suffer more than them, if it means eventually surpassing them.

Or you could try working on the competitiveness, practicing judgement on different areas of accomplishment and qualities. That might bring a more lasting satisfaction.

Answer 7

as long as you finish what you started , that's good, my grandson just finish high school in June at 21,I and he is so proud ,he is a smart person it just took him a long time to get it all

Answer 8

dude your freakin retarded, I have been working full time and going to school full time and I'll graduate next year when I'm 24, you haven't been working hard enough, I'm an honor student and I have had time for a girlfriend on top of that, moron.