My husband recently told me a secret about something that happened to him when he was child. It has really affected our relationship and I don't really know what to do. We have been married almost 10 years and he just told me a couple months ago. Why should I continue to trust him?
2006-09-29 09:55:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it was something that your husband kept secret for that long, it might just be something that he had severe difficulty in sharing with you. If he is still with you, then obviously he loves you. I don't think if didn't love you he would still be with you. Trust is not an easy thing to give, it has to be earned. Let him earn it back. I'm sure if you love him and he loves you, everything will work out. I'll be praying for you!
2006-09-29 09:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by jjodom1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somethings it takes a long time to build up the trust to share.
Instead of being greatful that he finally trusted you with a very old secret you're mad at him.
If he told you this secret on the first date would you of had a second date? Think about it.
2006-09-29 12:18:31 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why shouldnt you trust him. For someone to talk about somthing that happened to them when they were a child is a hard thing to do no matter how much you trust the person you are with. Childhood trauma is the hardest thing to discuss because of the emotional damage that has been done. It takes the person a long time if ever overcome what has happened and then to discuss it with someone becuase of the guilt they feel that it was somehow thier fault it happend and or they do not know why it happened to them.
You should be supportive of your husband.
2006-09-29 10:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by Hawaii808 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the secret, If it was in his chilhood then the past is just that hon. Let it go. You have loved him for ten years do not let it ruin it for you. You must be special for him to confide such an issue that took him ten years to come out with.Maybe it took him that long to feel he could trust you with his secret and finally decided you were the one he could tell.
2006-09-29 10:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Misty W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing what his secret is, it is hard to say. However maybe you can look at it in this way---He trusted you enough to tell you the secret (even tho it took a while) maybe you should keep your trust and faith in him and your relationship.
2006-09-29 10:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by kim b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you not trust him? He finally trusted you enough to tell you something that greatly affected him. Apparently it wasn't an easy thing to tell. This is the kind of sharing that can truly make you soul mates.
2006-09-29 12:12:51 · answer #6 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you trust him? So it took him that long to tell you that maybe it was hard for him. I'm sure there are things you haven't told him about you. Give him a break.
2006-09-29 09:59:43 · answer #7 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋