I am a soon to be father and I just found out I am being deployed to Iraq. My wife is acting really weird some days she will be excited about me deploying and our baby and then with in seconds I did somthing to make her mad. I have no idea what I am doing wrong. How can I make her feel more at ease about the baby and my deployment?
2006-09-29 09:47:12 · 19 answers · asked by USAToTheDeath 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just keep reassuring her of your devotion to her and the baby and remind her of your love for her. Pregnant women are way emotional anyways, throw in the mix that her husband is being deployed and the stress is worse. It's not you...it's just hormones, stress, worry....She'll be o.k., I have faith. Just be strong for her and try and make her feel as comforted and wanted as possible. Let her know her feelings are valid and that you understand. She just needs to know that although you'll be apart in the physical sense, that you will be thinking of her always and love her and will be looking forward to your reunion upon your return. God Bless you and your family and thank you for your service. :)
2006-09-29 09:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A lot of her mood swings are hormones but she probably feels really scared. The fact that she'll be doing the whole labor and new baby thing alone, plus you're going to war: these things would make any woman a mess!!!!! You should set up a web cam for her and teach her how to use it so that you two can be connected while you're gone. You have to reassure her that things will be fine and you'll be back and that you love her and your child and things will work out fine in the end. Good luck with a new baby and in Iraq.
2006-09-29 17:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that you absolutely support her, moodiness and all. Poor thing, she is pregnant for the first time and her husband is going to war - it is hard to feel at ease about something like that isn't it? You two (three) will get through this, make sure she has support when you leave: her family, close friends, or support group. Encourage her to get involved with the command and meet wives who are going through the same kind of thing. Go to church and get involved in a small group. It will be important for her to have people that are excited about the baby coming. When you do leave, email and call every chance you have. Little things mean a lot to us!
2006-09-29 16:54:09 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is so sad.Maybe your wife is acting like that because of all the stories that you hear in the newspapers and in TV news.Try to understand her.Its hard for her.I bet that should would love to have you near while her pregnancy.But you know when their is a obligation to attend to its a must.Try to talk to your wife and let her tell you how she feels.Try to encourage her and make her look in the bright side.That when everything is over you guys are going to be more stable financially and your baby will have a better future.I know its hard to understand us women but just imagine being in her shoes.Just try to be patient.Good luck and congratulations on your new baby
2006-09-29 16:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Alexandria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you've done anything wrong. Hormones take over when you're pregnant, and knowing that you are going to war cannot be easy on your wife. I don't know how you can make her feel more at ease with your leaving, that is something I can't even imagine. Just reinforce how much you love her and listen to her, no matter what. She has alot of emotions going on right now. Be very understanding, although it may seem hard. Be safe over there and come back to your family! Congrats on becoming a daddy!
2006-09-29 16:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by lisa s 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, is this your first child? It's going to be very difficult for your wife without you. I hope she has family to help her out.
As far as how your wife is acting, some women have mood swings worse than others during pregnancy and if I were in your wife's place, with my dh going to Iraq I would be a nervous wreck!
How to make her feel better? I don't know that you can. Just be there for her, spend as much time with her as you can. Tell her how wonderful things are going to be for her with the baby to keep her company while you're gone.
Good Luck & Be Safe.
2006-09-29 16:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can get lots of advice from other people but no one really knows like you wife does, so this best thing you can do is ask her how can you make her feel more at ease. Ask her these questions because what someone else thinks may not help your wife out very much. When in doubt ask her wife!
2006-09-29 16:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by STARS 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
pregnant women are very emotional, our bodies are working over time. and she is probably worried that the baby will never have you there as a father and she loves you and cares for you thats why she gets that way. My boyfriend is deployed right now and I am carryiong his baby and i feel that way, but you have to trust in God.
2006-09-29 16:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by angel5 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your wife is going through the normal hormonal changes pf pregnancy. She is scared for you to leave, scared that she will have to raise your baby alone. Talk to her and find out from HER what she wants you to do to make the transition easier for her. This has got to be a very hard time for her, so be patient and LISTEN to her above all else.
2006-09-29 16:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by KitKat 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Eh, those are just hormones. MOST of the time--you haven't done a thing wrong, she just blames it on you because you're the only one around. Just let her know how much you love her and that you're excited about the baby. Congrats on the little one and be safe over there! God bless.
2006-09-29 16:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋