Fidelity is part of the marriage package. Yet when there are problems (different sex drives, boredom, inabilit to communicate, whatever) there's this "He / She ought to thank their lucky stars that I'm not screwing around! I've been tempted, but I sucked it up and didn't give in...but I came really close!"
So what? It's what you're supposed to do! Am I missing something?
2006-09-29 09:35:16 · 13 answers · asked by Le_Roche 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with you.
When I said "YES" I really meant it, for better or for worse.
My "prize" for being true to my husband is a good marriage that lasted over 2 decades so far and counting. Isn't that the best reward ever?
2006-09-29 09:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that comes from someone who is fighting temptation... key word FIGHTING not resisting. They have mentally SO gone there! They know they could have it with just one phone call and they have gotten waaaay too close to the flames to not be burnt. I think that is why we are supposed to "avoid all appearances of evil" and listen to our instincts and just don't go there. BUT SO MANY people DO go there, unfortunately. People are often too weak to turn and walk away instead of flirting to see if "they've still got it." Good question and I really agree. ANYONE can go there, it takes a strong person not to and you're RIGHT, NO ONE deserves a medal for doing what they're supposed to do that's good for THEM anyway.
2006-09-29 16:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, the point is that the partner about whom the comment is made is not doing their part to uphold the marriage vows. fidelity is not the only part of the marriage contract. why is one part any more or less important than another?
for a marriage to be successful, BOTH parties must make the effort to uphold ALL the vows they made, not just the ones that are convenient. better or worse does not mean how they treat each other, but how the circumstances of life fall for them as a couple ... the "problems" you reference are not problems of the marriage, they are personal unwillingness to make an effort or compromise their style of personal behaviour in order to promote harmony in the marriage
2006-09-29 16:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're correct, they need to realize that when they said "I do", they didn't have to. It was their choice, and the prize was having a life partner.
No, you're not missing anything. People are just full of themselves, and they think that their spouse is lucky to have them. If they're considering cheating, their partner isn't lucky to have them at all.
2006-09-29 16:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, you're absolutely right. Fidelity IS part of your commitment. It shouldn't be something held over your head everytime u have some issues.
2006-09-29 16:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That just goes to show that they lack too much maturity to be married to begin with. They need to WORK OUT their problems. It's like parents saying "They better thank their lucky stars that I'm feeding them!" It's what they're SUPPOSED to do. It's nothing special.
2006-09-29 16:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
these days temptation is not the exception, its all over the place and its there 24/7-------theres a lot of lonely people out there--my husband and i work within the media community--and its unreal we are the only happily married couple out there we know------
and so yes i think happily married people deserve an award for holding on to their morals and values--------
2006-09-29 16:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by darkangel1111 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right, there really should NOT be any prize or praise for that.......but everywhere you look people are cheating and leaving one and other.....so the ones who do stick it feel like they have triumphed over the odds so to speak.....
2006-09-29 16:39:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that wondering eye is always going to be there no matter what - but it is not always greener on the other side. Perhaps..... you just need to find better things to do with one another - spice it up? Just a thought! Good Luck.
2006-09-29 16:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Misty B 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Naw girl I'm with you on this one...They're supposed to be there trough thick and through thin.
2006-09-29 16:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋