Okay so I've talked to my boyfriend of 5 1/2 years about how I feel about him ever cheating on me and he says he's not like my last boyfriend and would never do anything to hurt me, but I still have this gut feeling he is cheating, just because, we only see eachother on the weekends and it just doesn't feel right?? Is this normal and should I believe waht he says...I can't live like this, I've been stressing for days??
2006-09-29 09:11:10 · 14 answers · asked by skeptical 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you think something is wrong then maybe something is but you will never be sure. Trust is a hell of a thing if you cant trust him might as well just call it a lost. It will always haunt you. Its either you start trusting, live with it, or just leave. The decision is yours its if you can handle it. And please dont go searching for it unlease you are prepared to deal with it. (someone else and your man!)
2006-09-29 09:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are trying to make this not work..you can't compare your now boyfriend to the past ones ..they won't stick around if you are always comparing him to the others..Do you want out???Why all of a sudden 51/2 years does it not feel right are you looking for an excuse to leave the relationship without guilt??I am not trying to put you down I just know that I did the same thing once to a really nice guy who treated me good..and I felt guilty after wards..If he's not doing it for you don't make this about him be honest and move on ...there are actually nice guys out there who don't cheat and its too bad that you didn't have the luck to never have been with them..good luck and if you love him let go of the past and trust your man
2006-09-29 16:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something, when a woman see something is different in a guy, or he is doing things that normally doesnt do is because something is happening or about to happen; I was thinking that my boyfriend and friend of mine were talking just to much, she had problems w/ her husband and stuff so he said he was helping her to cope w/ her life. One day I heared a conversation between them and they didnt talk about a relationship but the way they talk it was just not right; they were flirting and using double meanings in the conversation, so I got in a fight w/ them. Now Im still w/ him because he has been so good to me for 4 yrs (our time 2gether) they didnt do anything w/ her not even a kiis, but just think about it; if I wouldnt hear anything it may be possible for them to do something. So if you feel something is wrong you better pay close attention to it. You better than us know him and if you feel it, 85% of the time it may be true. Talk to him in a serious way and if he still deny it try to find out by yourself. Good luck
2006-09-29 16:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 1/2 yrs? That's along time, Shouldn't you know by now how your heart feels when it comes to him cheating? If you are feeling this way after 51/2 yrs, then maybe your womanly instincts are telling you something! Be careful & open your eyes and your ears!! Good Luck
2006-09-29 16:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have doubts, something is not right in your relationship. why do you only see each other on the weekends? if he has been with you for 5 1/2 years, what really makes you think he is going to slip up and hurt you now??
2006-09-29 16:15:08 · answer #5 · answered by elliemae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered you're own question.
" I can't live like this ", well that's what you said... Then don't!
Stop boo hooing about this and become pro-active.
As they say, " if it don't work, change it! "
Until you are ready to change you're situation nothing will change.
If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, waddles like a duck ... chances are " IT'S A DUCK!!! that needs to be PLUCKED "
Girl, don't waste you're time on a man you're gut is telling you is wrong for you.
You're instincts will guide you, just look inside yourself and do some soul-searching.
Only you can answer this question.
2006-09-29 16:25:34 · answer #6 · answered by deb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh god hun i feel the same!!!! my b/f of a year went on vacation with his ex gf, and i think something happened that weekend, but he swears up and down that he loves me, and i should TRUST him....HAH trust is a funny word. the thing is i have spent numerous nights biting my nails off, and not sleeping, i still have yet to find out the truth.
so huni...what u gotta do, is get on his computer or his cell phone when hes not looking...seriously men are stupid, they dont erase things....you are smart....GOOD LUCK and BEST WISHES
XOXOX
2006-09-29 16:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by Star274009 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the issue is not if he is ...or isnt cheating ...its how that will make you feel.....maybe you have left over hurt from your last relationship ..and you need to deal with that
2006-09-29 16:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by pineforestkim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk. If he really loves you he would tell you if he had been cheating.
2006-09-29 16:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe if you feel he is cheating, than there is some thing going on.instinct is usually true.
2006-09-29 19:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋