i have went outside the relationship when weve broken up and hes done the same but now last summer when we broke up he asked a girl to marry him. then 3 months later he came back to me. back and forth between me and her for the last year. now i made him leave and he is with her angain but still calls me and we had sex. what is he doing and what does he want? me or her
2006-09-29 09:04:03 · 17 answers · asked by therealtrubble 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The problem is not with him, sweetie, it is you and the bad choices that you make. You are what is called an Enabler. Why are you accepting this treatment from the creep??? YOU are allowing him to come back and forth into your life. YOU are acting like a cheap ho by having sex with him while you know he is having sex with someone else. Why would even consider being with him when he treats with no respect??? YOU need to clean up your act, have positive personal boundaries and stop settling for garbage.....because that is what you are getting!!!
2006-09-29 09:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is using you and why r u letting him. If your asking that question its all right there, u have said what he is doing and he wants both of u because he isnt mature enough to know what he wants. I would tell him to leave u alone or u r going to get a restraining order but if u r still having sex with him u must not be too worried about it. I would have never been with him again after he was with another woman. I would never want sloppy seconds and thrids coz if he is doing that with her and u, how many others are out there he is doing the same too. You need to stay away from him and dont give into him. He sounds like he isnt worth it.
2006-09-29 09:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is called having your cake and eating it. you are leaving your self wide open for this man to use and abuse you as is this other woman. I know its very hard when you love someone to say no, but you have to be firm in what you say either way. you either say its me or her if that's what you want and you must mean it and stick to it. But ask yourself this, can he really be worth all this, can he be trusted, will you ever feel safe with him, all questions and many more to ask before you put yourself through this again. my advice is, forget him if you can, you can do so much better and deserve so much better. find someone that loves you and you alone.
2006-09-29 09:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you keep taking him back, he's going to play both of you. You need to tell him to go back to her and never come back to you...and MEAN IT! DON'T take him back! Under ANY circumstances. Don't even talk to him on the phone. He isn't worth it.
He is using both of you...and he could be seeing other women, too. That would leave both of you vulnerable for contracting a sexually transmitted disease! You could die!
Give him the boot and be happy you got rid of him!
2006-09-29 09:11:45 · answer #4 · answered by EnglishGraduate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey...you keep taking him back and spreading your thighs for him. I have to wonder who the dope is here. I mean...can't blame him...he's getting action from you and her. How ya feel about that huh? That same thing he's giving you has just been given to her.
I guess since he figures that since he and this other woman has no morals neither do you. Sad thing is...it appears he's right.
2006-09-29 09:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's bei ng very manipulative and her conceivable historic previous of suicidal inclinations ought to no longer be your problem. in spite of the indisputable fact that, it type of feels your boyfriend has already made it his problem through allowing her to maintain "ties" to his existence through acquaintances and relatives. this isn't suitable: once you split, you split. era. you do not shop in contact consisting of your ex and their relatives. His relatives ought to understand his favor to flow on (and be with you!). So ... can he locate the thanks to easily ignore her and end taking duty for her emotional subject matters? Or is continually going to sense dutifully absolute to her for something of his existence? If this lady is a everlasting component of your boyfriend's "luggage", you want to ask your self no matter if you're prepared to submit with it. in my view, i'd not: there are only such extremely some different large adult adult males accessible who don't have bothered exes contained in the heritage.
2016-11-25 02:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by mehboob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants sex from you and her, so if you want him to around stop it with him and make it straight to the point. Change your number and quit having sex with him. As long as you give a guy sex openly, why should he leave?
2006-09-29 09:10:55 · answer #7 · answered by kevin T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes using you and her. You both are yo blame because you are letting him get away with it. He cant do bad things to you if you DONT allow him to. Stay away from him...hes using you.
2006-09-29 09:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is just using both of you 4 sex neither of u should have anymore contact with him
2006-09-29 09:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give in Hes using you Hes playing the field..
2006-09-29 09:11:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋