goes along w/ the ? before about not having a sex life hubby....?

Question

please don't get me wrong. our realationship is very strong. we have very open minded about it. we call each other when we are not apart, and texting each other all the time. we say i love you and miss you very time we speak to each other. we even leave notes in each other car/truck to let each know we are thinking of each other. when i am off at night, we have a movie night and we do it as family. we campout in living room. we try to go on dates but finding a babysister is hard. we do alot w/ each other and doing stuff. its just that finding time to have sex is hard. even at times he past out too. an for me to be a stay home mom/housewife, now way, done that years ago and i hate it and i got depress over it. besides we have to many bills for to quit my job. just got new house and truck. thats y we both work. its how can i get my mojo back. how can i get my motavtion back up to speed. not thinking other crap too. please help.

well i work from 11pm to 7 am her work from 730am-600pm. kids go to school and preschool, older has football practice and game on weekends, lil she has soccer practice. kids go to bed at 8 pm and we go to bed at 9 pm (when i am off). the night i have to go to wrok when he gets homes and afther all practice i go to sleep before work and sometimes i don't eat dinner. he'll make me bag of food to take to work. when i am at work he sleep on the couch and so do i when i try to take a nap during the days, we both can not sleep in our bed w/ out the other. our bodies have to touch during the night lol i know sound crazy but its true.its harder for to sleep during to b/c i don't feel confortable when my family isn't at home w/ me so i can't sleep. i try to sleep next to my puppie but its works sometimes not always. and thanks for all your guys info. what should i do3 more wkeends i be off and he will too. what should i do. any ideas?

Answer 1

Well, I think you're saying you guys are too tired.

Intimacy is important. Find a B&B and have a weekend alone w/ each other. (quarterly!)

Start setting earlier bedtimes, for your whole household.

Eat healthy.

Start planning romantic encounters. The mind is the biggest sex organ. If you both start antipating things, the desire will come back.

Answer 2

I am going through the exact same thing, I work nights and stay at home with a new infant and preschooler while he works twelve hour days. I see him for maybe an hour in the morning and an hour at night! We love eachother so much and every opportunity that arrises (bad metaphor, sorry) it comes down to sleep or sex? I know finding a babysitter is hard but could you manage once a month a date night, even if it is for two hours. Ask a friend or family member to take the kids to a dollar movie, or library, park, ice cream, something cheap so you both can... you know...
You have to actually schedule time for eachother. I used to think that was me being selfish, but you both are the leaders of the household and your happiness means more than most people think. You shouldn't have to sacrafice your career just to get laid, make some other adjustments. Besides it is sometimes fun to sneak around and that could get you both back into the groove of things All couples go through slumps, it will pass and it is great that you are so motivated to resolve that and thinking of your marriage. Good luck!

Answer 3

You've made the first step by thinking this out.
You've made a second step by asking for help.
So
Ideas:
1) Set up a trade babysitting with neighbor/friend at work.
2) Get a part time job - you heard what your hubby asked. Meet him half way.
3) Count your blessings. 33% of marrried women would gladly die for someone to leave the Im messages, notes, and the like.
4) Count your blessings. 13% of married women find their husbands thought sex was a honeymoon gig.
5) Buy a thong and see through bra and your husband will wake up.
g) MAKE time to get some counseling if none of these work.
Great work in keeping the marriage w/ mojo.

Answer 4

I think you two should seat down and talk about it before is too late. Try being creative, you start first,maybe that works.

Good Luck

Answer 5

Babes u gotta make time cuzz someone might make it for u.

Try taking a day off from work to be with him.... and he can do the same. Thats wot my husbnd and i do sometimes.

Answer 6

Kiddo, you need stress relief and some time to relax. How to fit that in your schedule is beyond me, but maybe you can do it. Sex will follow.