What advice should I give this girl, she is my girlfriend's sister, who I am friends with. And I know what this guy is doing, he's just getting some A$$ on the side, she stays at home by herself at night because the guy is with his family...she works with him and they go to her apt. at lunch time to mess around. Any helpful advise I should give her to help her realize she is being a homewrecker and $lut?
2006-09-29 08:44:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she'll end up learning her lesson the hard way. just leave her be
2006-09-29 08:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is HIS responsibility in this! Afterall, HE is the one who is married.
Maybe you should approach it from a different angle. Instead of calling her a homewrecker, you should care about the fact that she is setting herself up for heartache.
Or maybe.......she doesn't want a commitment or any kind and is happy just getting sex when she needs it.
No matter what the case, it really isn't any of your business. She is an adult, and she will have to deal with whatever the consequences may be. If she is dumb enough to stay home every night, do you really believe she is going to listen to you anyway?
P.S. You could always have a little talk with the guy--let him know he needs to leave her alone. You could respectfully explain that you would be happy to fill his wife in on what is going on!
2006-09-29 15:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women in this situation won't realize what's going on until it all blows up in their face. It probably won't matter what you say about it. On some level, she must know what she's doing. He may be promising her he'll leave his wife for her, and she may believe it. That's typical. You might tell her to look at it from the man's family's perspective. How would his wife react? How would the children be effected? His wife doesn't deserve that, even if she's not the best wife. Besides that, does she really want something bad enough to disregard common decency and risk ruining the lives of innocent people, when there are men out there who are actually available?
2006-09-29 15:53:48 · answer #3 · answered by L S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl may be all happy and excited "now", but when all hell breaks loose, she'll be totally upset. You can talk till the cows come home, but it's likely she'll just want to see him even more. Let her alone, it won't last forever. And it's doubtful it will turn into anything permanant, and here's why. Usually when "cheating" is involved, and the two parties decide they want to make it permanantly "special," one of them ends up thinking about "how" they got together in the first place, and starts wondering if that same "special person" is cheating on "them." So relax, it won't last. Good luck.
2006-09-29 15:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't interfere. But, if you chose to advise your friend, you might want to let her know what you think his intentions are and that you believe she's being used. And, let her know that it's not wise to have relationships with people that are married because there's no future in that. Tell her to have self- respect and self-esteem and let her know that she worth more than just something on the side. If she doesn't listen then I'm afraid there's not much you can do for calling her names might put a damper on your friendship. Good Luck!!!
2006-09-29 15:59:20 · answer #5 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are all you people to judge!!!!???? You are making it seem as if this is all her fault. She did not stand up in a ceremony and say that she will only be with this one person for the rest of her life. No he did and he's the on that is breaking vows and disrespecting his wife... not her. Leave her alone - her Karma will come it always does but never forget that she is just fooling around with someone that happens to be married. She is not the homewrecker, HE is - he CHOSE to go outside his marriage that he vowed not to do - she never did - She will get hurt because he will probably not leave his wife, but as long as she has her eyes open and is taking it for what it is... sex its none of your concern
2006-09-29 15:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by ice_princess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put her in the other woman's shoes. This is a family she is helping to destroy. She knows he is married there fore she is just as wrong as he is. Ask her how she would feel if she was the wife? Plus what is she trying to get out of this. Make sure she knows she is getting used, and that this can only end in heart break. Plus if her work finds out she can be out of a job.
2006-09-29 15:51:11 · answer #7 · answered by Just another day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Tell her if he cheats on her, He will cheat on you. also point out that there are more people involved in this equation than just her and him. I have seen from experience what damage extramarital affairs can and will do, tell her for the sake of her own self respect get out and get out now, and if that doesnt work you can always threaten to tell the guys wife, trust me she'll be hurt at first but she will eventually be grateful
2006-09-29 15:53:20 · answer #8 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a close enough freind for you to advise - tell her to stay away from him. No good will come of this relationship for her. This guy is a jerk and is using her. She should move on and find someone who will love and respect her - someone whom she can have fun and build her own life with.
2006-09-29 16:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by ~Dee~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe call her a homewrecker and $lut.
Why bother? sounds like the type to avoid.
2006-09-29 15:47:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one thing how old is she and if she is of age tell her that she should quit trying to take some ones thought to be true love you know this guys wife is going to be mad so yeah.
2006-09-29 15:53:12 · answer #11 · answered by stresshorse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋