I've been working out with a 29 year old woman from my area (i'm 20).
At first, the relationship has been totally platonic, we meet at the gym, we work out together, then we go home seperately.
Recently she has started inviting me over to her place when her husband isnt around.
She is very attractive and i feel like i'm missing out if i dont.
What would YOU do?
2006-09-29 08:41:30 · 24 answers · asked by Kid A 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks for the answers.
I think she only wants sex tho. I'll choose a best answer at 5 eastern.
2006-09-29 09:00:12 · update #1
As a married women I would not have done that. She is married, happy with it or not, MARRIED. You can do better, BETTER, better. Trust me you wouldn't want to live with the guilt, tempting or not, of having your hand in on destroying a union before god. Marriage is a sacred bond and she is obviously having trouble at home and looking for some companionship, eventually and hopefully she won't receive it where she is seeking and go home to her husband where she will either work it out or get out. If this is the case and you are the man she is looking for comfort with than you will only assist her in straying further from her husband. I would hope to God that they don't have children, I could definently not have anything nice to write to you if that was the case. Surely you would never be that heartless and cruel of a person to do that to an innocent child, so I no need mentioning it...
You are young and obviously have no trouble attracting women, just try and attract available nice ones! Stay away, don't even be friends, it isn't possible. FInd another gym bunny...
2006-09-29 08:50:59 · answer #1 · answered by wtrmlnqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Picture it this way: you're out of the house knowing that your own wife (future wife) will be going to the gym. She's beautiful, attractive, yada yada. You find out that she's inviting some guy home from her gym, a guy that wants to be with her in a not-so-platonic way.
How would you feel about that?
Put yourself in her husband's shoes and think about whether it's the right thing to do or not.
Me, personally - I can't say I would want to be with a married man. I couldn't be the one to ruin someone's marriage just because I thought the guy was attractive, or whatever reason.
If that woman is willing to do things with you knowing full well she's married, you don't need to waste your time with someone like her.
Good luck.
2006-09-29 15:47:47 · answer #2 · answered by ♥i KnwUc It♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am a Christian,therefore anything other than a platonic relationship with a married woman would be a no-no.The fact that she is inviting you over when her husband is out suggests the relationship is becoming other than platonic.At the very least find out what her feelings and intentions regarding you are,so you don't just sleepwalk into this,and give some consideration to how her husband might feel.
2006-09-29 15:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by livingstone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You are obviously attracted to this woman, but so what? What is really attractive about a woman who would cheat on her husband, no matter what the reason? Here's what you are really missing out on: a dishonest relationship heading towards dangerous. Dare I also add that if she's capable of deceiving her husband, you are probably going to be used big time. Sorry for the bad news. Stick with legally available attractive women. There's plenty of them.
2006-09-29 15:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by fried_twinkie1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would *I* do?
I'd RUN! Anyone who will cheat *with* you will cheat *on* you. Also, I personally would have a hard time living with myself because of the unsuspecting spouse. They don't deserve that. Do unto others as you would want done to you. If you don't want someone having sex with *your* wife without your knowledge and consent, then don't do it to someone else. I'm a firm believer in that what goes around comes around. There are a LOT of single women in the world. Tell her you're happy to date her/be with ehr when she's single, but not while she's married. My 2 cents.
2006-09-29 15:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by writerchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and have been having an affair with my neighbor's wife for wto years now. It's great! Our situation is differnet, though. He's moved out with MS and my nasty ***** wife filed for divorce so neither of us had anything to lose. Don't do it unless you're in a similar situation. Ther are too many destructive potentials just to get your d1ck wet.
2006-09-29 15:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by beefstrokinoff39 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continuing down this path will only be inviting a world of pain beyond your comprehension. Best advice? Find a new gym.
2006-09-29 15:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not have anything to do with her at all. You should not be going over to her place. She is in the wrong too for leading you on like she is doing. She is married and she is OFF limit's!!! Stay away from her.
2006-09-29 17:08:15 · answer #8 · answered by pa_susie99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never sleep with a married woman. Marriage is a sacred trust, and getting in the way of that is wrong.
2006-09-29 15:44:53 · answer #9 · answered by bc.grown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was single, I would go for it, but not at her place. Invite her to your place or experiment at the gym or a motel. Have some respect for her relation.
2006-09-29 15:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by pietaune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋