most times when women catch their hubbies/bfs cheating they blame the other woman and then the hubby/bf....not all but most...why tho, shouldnt you blame the hubby/bf first and then maybe the other woman cause she might not know that he was taken...you understand what i mean?
2006-09-29 08:40:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your husband or boyfriend is cheating, then you deal with him. The Other Woman isn't even a consideration, even if you know her. No one held a gun to his head (no pun intended) and made him be unfaithful.
Leave the Other Woman alone: she already has problems if she can't find a single man of her own.
2006-09-29 09:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's a psychologial thing that sort of protects the person's brain from feeling the overwhelming pain and shock of learning their partner is cheating. It's much too painful and devasting to believe the person you love, who supposedly loved you, would betray you. Lashing out at the other person, with whom you have no emotional investment, is how the mind allows the initial shock to be released, until the person's emotions are able to cope a little better...like letting reality slowly seep in in order to cope.
If you think about it, most people blame "others" for their problem. If your child gets in trouble at school, don't most parents blame the teacher first? If something goes wrong, even though it's your fault, don't you first want to blame something/one else?
2006-09-29 15:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes, but in most cases the women get mad and try to blame the other women, its not easy facing the fact that your heart is fixing to get broken. But yes the man should be blamed first then the other woman if she knew about you. Most women know if a man is with someone or not, and some normally don't care. But you are right the man should be blamed first, or vesuvius.
2006-09-29 15:45:49 · answer #3 · answered by Just another day 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I understand what u mean. Afterall, it IS your hubby that has the commitment to u. But sometimes we can't help blaming the other woman simply because "it's another woman"....if u know what I mean.
2006-09-29 15:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
10-4 on what you are saying. Check out nature - the woman sets out the lure/scent, and men follow. Men are relatively passive beings if they are receiving reasonable sex at home. If home turns cold or distracted, they are more likely to pick up the lore.
Men on the prowl i.e. single or scum, void these comments.
2006-09-29 15:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are still with the person than it is because it is easier than putting the blame on him first. I agree with you though, he is the want that broke the bond with you, she didn't have the same bond, so in a way he was really more accountable.
2006-09-29 15:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by sweet smile 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure do understand, you should blame your spouse they are the ones cheating on you, not the other woman. I hate to see someone take it out on the other party, that is your problem not theirs.
2006-09-29 15:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, we always blame the other women because They take our men away! We don't blame the men until later!
2006-09-29 16:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
blame the guy and if the woman also knew then kick her *** and your bf *** but if she didnt hold nothing against her and tell her to leave your bf also cuz if she cheated on you he will cheat on her to
2006-09-29 15:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by Wlr Steve 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The other person represents someone who is better than you since your partner chose them over any pain that it could/would cause you.
You may hate the actions of your partner, but you hate the other person for just being themselves.
2006-09-29 15:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋