I feel like i am going crazy. I hate my job i have no boyfriend. The one man that i am seriously in love with just wants to be friends. I have cut off all contact with him as it hurts too much to be just friends but now i am regretting it, how do i go about making up with him but at the same time deal with my emotions.
2006-09-29 08:39:10 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Give yourself some time and space away from this bloke. He has made his feeling clear that he wants to be friends but he may just be having second thoughts himself. Set a time limit for yourself not to get into contact with him say a month and then go and speak with him. Tell him you want to start afresh and let bygones be bygones, if he doesn't show any interest other than friendship you have to push your feeling aside and try and find someone else. It maybe that you are too close and he can't envisage a relationship with a mate. As for the job, if you are that unhappy there, get the local papers, national papers go down the job centre and change it, there is no point in staying somewhere you don't like, look at it as a new challenge. You never know you might even find a new fella at another place of work. All is not lost all you have to do is take your life by the horns and change the aspects of it that you don't like. Good luck.
2006-09-29 08:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you done the right thing i think in cutting all contact with this guy a bit of time will do you the world together, all you need right now is some you time, sit yourself down and make things happen for you, look for a new job, and so what if you have no boyfriend you dont need one right now! You need to get yourself together first then everything will fall into place when you are happy in yourself people will see you in a differant way, who knows this could be ure turning point, where nothing makes sence at the mo, things are going to get better, so focus on you for the timebeing everything else can wait till your ready. best of luck i hope things work out for you.
2006-09-29 10:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by EMMA O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as much as it hurts is better that you stay away from him for a while. Being near him will just break your heart if he only wants to be friends, and if he starts dating someone else you will be the one hurting and not him. Second, go out, make new friends, change the way you look, get a hair cut, get a new manicure or pedicure, go to the beach, read a book... life is too short to be feeling that way, be sexy... put on a nice dress and go to a bar by yourself be a dare devil..... and if you dont like your job, find a new one.... go to school learn something new, plan a trip, learn a new language.... life is full of many surprises you will see the right man is yet to come. :o)
2006-09-29 08:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't obsess, move on. Do you have any close friends to talk to? Try and get out, and be happy with yourself as you! Once you like yourself, meeting people is a lot easier. I know that sounds stupid, but I have been where you are. It is okay to not have a boyfriend, and the sooner you can move on from this other man, the sooner you will meet someone else. Only you have control over what you can accomplish. Explore what other options you have as far as a job, take control! It is a long hard road, but there is a light at the end.
2006-09-29 08:43:54 · answer #4 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem at this very moment.
I know that the more you feel sorry for yourself the more crap keeps happening. Me personally I keep having the chip on my shoulder. My situation is though..I have no family memebers and just lost my mom which was my only family to cancer.
I know in the back of my mind that if I could just find a happy place and stop being in a bad mood life will get better but I just haven't found it. I even started working out on my bowflex again and bike 10 miles a day and drink two red bulls everyday and I just can't get that damn chip off my shoulder. I hate it...and I wish I had better advice to give you except..this..take notices that you are not alone..there are people out here that are in the same boat and they go on and contineu their life.
The only thing I really want to know is..How do you get back and incrediable man back that you told to go away. I know its the right thing to do and move on is to leave him alone but now that I did it..my jimmy cricket is saying...NOOOOOOOO!!
Sorry I am venting all over your question. I will make sure I keep an eye on everyone's answer and I do wish you luck on finding your way out
2006-09-29 08:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the smae situation with a man, and for my own sanity, I have had to cut contact. Until your feelings fade, it's probably best. Take up a hobby, start a course, that's what takes my mind off it. Before I did that, I spent hours looking at my phone waiting for answers to texts. It isn't good. I'm still checking it now, we both want diffrent things form our friendship, but every time he contacts I just want him to hold me. He never will, so I am not putting myself through this anymore. Let me know how it goes!
2006-09-29 08:48:38 · answer #6 · answered by flumoxed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call the guy and apologise for cutting him out of your life and explain that you would very much like to be friends again. your going crazy because you have it set in your mind that you hate your job and place so much emphasis that your life must suck without a boyfriend. perhaps you should just focus on improving yourself by learning something new, taking up a new sport etc and that way you get to meet new people and possibly meet a new guy
2006-09-29 08:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by Norz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You young lady do not need any one at all to be happy, it will find you when you least expect it to.
What are your interests, anything, swimming, walking, walking a dog, pets? Find a common link with like minded people, join a club. Would you enjoy helping people who are (believe it or not) less fortunate than yourself.
You put yourself in a position to meet and expand your circle of friends and acquaintances, you're in charge of your life and you will make it a fantastic life. You will be the one deciding if you want to be with some guy.
You just need to realise it, the penny will drop!
2006-09-29 09:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by john g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds hard for you. you start by talking to him like any other normal person , put every a side. and talk to him normally . forget the idea of being Friends or in a relation ship.
You could try diverting your attention to something else when you are with or without him.
take up a hobby . playing guitar , cycling !
about your job where about do you live and what do you ?
let me know at spelyam@hotmail.com , im might be able to help.
good night and all the best of luck
2006-09-29 08:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by spelyam2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right, let's compartmentalize things - so, you hate your job - what do you like doing and could you train for something else. See a careers advisor if you're unsure. If the man wants to be friends then that's how it's going to be. Sadly, I was in that position once and nothing changes his mind. Get a postive outlook on things and they'll change - good luck!!
2006-09-29 08:43:40 · answer #10 · answered by gerbiltamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋