What will it take to make marriages last in our society?

Answer 1

Please don't take this out of context or twist these words, if you read the entire piece, you will understand:

Ephesians 5:
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Answer 2

An open line of communication between spouses. Mine has last 22 years. Know why? When I get angry with my wife over something or vice-versa we discuss it. Plus...we comprimise. Something a lot of people won't do. If you cannot talk about your problems then the marriage is doomed to fail.
Today this is the reason for our youth being so anti-social or violent. They do not know how to read body language...hence the "Does he or she like me"...or..."He/she does this or that...what does it mean"?
You see...if you spend your lifetime communicating through phone, text messages or chatrooms then how can you actually discuss anything face to face. I don't send my wife an e-mail saying "I love you". Anyone can do that. Try saying it to her face. It has a tendency to mean much more.
Finally...we live in a "throw-away" society. DVD player doesn't work? Toss it out. Toaster doesn't work? Toss it out. marriage broken? Toss it. People are not willing to WORK at making a relationship last. They give up because they have never worked for anything in their lives. It's all given to them. Young women want to catch a man so they spread their legs within a month of meeting him. Men don't want to work at courting a female and showing her the reasons as to why he'd make a good life partner. They think a trip to McDonald's and maybe a movie is a ticket into your panties. See? No more old fashioned working at being a good choice for a mate....only animalistic tendencies.

Granted not all men and women are like this. however take a good, hard look at some (or most) of the people here. They can't even make a decision as to how to control or gain cotrol of their own miserable and insignificant lives.

Answer 3

People need to take that commitment more seriously. We need to stop romanticizing the idea of an affair through the media such as books and movies. We need the process of a divorce to be more complex to discourage people from doing it. Maybe require marriage counseling before the divorce can be completed.
I was with my ex and his future stepmother not too long ago when she was getting her hair done. She was getting married in a week, and she was already discussing with the hairdresser how she wanted to do her next wedding. She wasn't even married yet and already had planned her divorce to him and next wedding!!! We need to make marriage a bigger deal.

Answer 4

Teamwork, lots of love and attention, giving as much as you take, trust, did I mention love, knowing that you would be willing to sacrifice your life to save your spouse (both of you should feel that way), Having the ability to talk through your problems. There isn't a problem that you can't talk out with your spouse. Commitment with a big C, love of God and desire to be right with God all the times, perseverance, tenacity, forgiveness, respect and appreciation of your partner no expectations (they only fail you lose the expectations). We all look crappy in the morning get over it. Laugh, joke, find things to do and enjoy together. Oh and remembering that its natural and normal to argue - but never go to bed or go more then a day angry! and finally, a marriage grounded in faith.

Answer 5

First off... Open Communication... because this builds trust.

then, you have to be a genuine friend, because this will last a lifetime.

Then you have to have values that you want to share with your special someone too... Trust, Honesty, Respect, Caring, Sharing, Appreciation, A Sense of Humor, Unconditional Love.

Then you have to value your special someone's sense of People, and Trust and show that you do each and every day to them.

Finally, you have to accept people as they are without judgement.

Most of all, you have to have a "Meeting of Minds"... where both you and your special someone share that special feeling together like your minds are as one. This makes love unconditional and long lasting for a lifetime.

Answer 6

Before people get married, they fully understand what is all involved. I belive that they should date for about 5 yrs minimum to learn the person they are wanting to marry. Not just talk for a few weeks, days, or hours, but totally understand and know the person they think they want. They dont understand that it takes time, communication, understanding, giving/taking and heartache at times for both.

Answer 7

A mutual understanding between both sides to endure whatever comes thier way. Also it is essential that everyone avoid affairs and flirts. The biggest cause of divorce is money, so be established financially to remove that from the equation.

Answer 8

it is almost impossible for marriages to last these days....its not enforced and when things get tough divorce is the easy way out.....people dont have what it takes to make a relationship work.

Answer 9

Love and Respect

Answer 10

Tax the hell out of divorces.