Will these feelings eventually go away..............I really want to be with my husband, not the guy I cheated with. Or should I just keep a friendship with this other man.
2006-09-29 08:23:32 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Forget the other guy, and if you cant live with the guillt of what you did, then ask your husband for forgiveness.
2006-09-29 08:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to keep in contact with the man you cheated with?
As for the feelings, first of all, we need to know, how do you know this other cat? Is he a recent friend? or someone you've known for a while. If it's someone you've known for a while, what changed, to have you sleep with him?
What led to your cheating? Was it a fight with your husband? Drinking? Depression? a combination fo the above? or something else?
No one else can say how you will feel, just as no one say if you'll ever cheat again.
But, BUT, you should truly know your own feelings on this matter. If you feel strongly for this other man, and want to keep a relationship going, then you maybe setting yourself up to cheat again. And, if your husband ever found out, not only would he feel betrayed and devastated, he may think that you kept on cheating, especially if you keep in touch with the other guy.
You may just want to fess up, and see if you and your husband can work your way through this.
2006-09-29 08:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by klgemini29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cheated on your husband. and now you wonder if you should remain friends with this guy. If you have feelings for this guy and think about him often, then how can you say you want to be with your husband. time does make a person forget. but remaining friends with him will only be a constant reminder and it may be very tempting to cheat again. I do comend you for your braveness and admitting what you did. Admitting what you did wrong is the first step. In time your feelings for this other man will go away. But you need to stay clear from him. We all make mistakes, and deserve forgivness. but making the same mistake twice does not always deserve forgivness. Good Luck.
2006-09-29 08:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, DO you know why you cheated. That's where you start. You can't fix a problem until you know why it was broke. Spend some time within yourself, being HONEST with yourself about what it was you were feeling when you cheated. Now that you've identified the problem, you can work on fixing it. Get marriage counseling. Talk about where you were inside of yourself when you cheated and how that effected you. If you want your marriage to work, for get about the other guy and give all your attention to your husband.
2006-09-29 08:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you made a bad mistake, stay away from that other guy.You`re going to pay for what you have already done why make it worse.If your husband finds out, you will find out how fast stuff can go down hill. You better get you`re act together. A clear mine can get a lot of good done. Your husband trusts you, don`t blow it for a feeling.In the long run you`ll be glad.
2006-09-29 08:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was never a friendship never will be it was an affair and you know this
If you have any contact you will be destroying your marriage
Lets assume you told your husband about the affair, he will be trying to learn to forgive you and trust you. oh and yes he will suspect even if you didn't tell him. Well if you have any contact with that man you will ruin your marriage.
Also you said alot when you said you think about that guy during sex, that is because it was lust. the only way to forget and get past that is to want to.
2006-09-29 08:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by ly_rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is going through the same thing. The only thing is this, he divorced his wife the second time she cheated on him. You are not happy with yourself therefore you are ruining the life of your marriage not to mention the life of this other man. Your being very selfish. We tend to reap what we sow. I know in the future that what comes around goes around, so I would suggest that you pray for forgiveness, leave the other man alone and wait for your consequences. My sister in law lost her family, her children, a beautiful house that was built to her liking and most important her self respect. She can't even talk to her own family. You dug yourself in a deep, dark, black hole so now enjoy!
2006-09-29 10:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by Wifey K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your husband ever find out about this relationship? Did ya'll have couseling? I do know if you really won't to stay with your husband you better stay far away from this other man, I think I wouldn't even consider a friendship with him.
2006-09-29 08:27:25 · answer #8 · answered by sweet smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason for the laws of God.
See what happens when we break them?
Sorry to be so judgmental, the people promoting the free sex and immoral behavior don't tell both sides of the story.
Our Grand Parents had it right.
Peace, and Good Luck, I suggest some spiritual Counseling.
2006-09-29 08:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've tasted the forbidden fruit and now you want to savor it often... That's the part you don't find out about until you cheat...
Those feelings will always be there now... The drive and desire... The lust for making love to the other person...You must decide whether to act on those feelings or ignore them... You can never be just friends with him...
2006-09-29 08:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You apparently have no morals or values as you were unfaithful. Why should you be posing a moralistic question now. Oh...I know...it's called "guilt".
You just keep on with this "friendship". Let your husband know this so he can at least get a good picture of the type of person he really married.
2006-09-29 08:27:58 · answer #11 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋