My husband is getting on my nerves about getting a job. I recently got laid off and while looking for work I realized something. Why doesn't he just find a job that pays more? He has an opportunity to go overseas and make 80,000 a year tax free and I think he should take it to support us. What do you think?
2006-09-29 08:21:18 · 16 answers · asked by Elizabeth W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sure, he should take it if only to get away from you!
2006-09-29 08:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should have talked about that before you got married. Some men want a wife that is a stay at home mom or they want a whife that works. Did he ever tell you what he wanted? If you have kids then you could stay at home or you could work part time when they are at school during the day. If he needs help relieving the stress on his workload then you should consider finding a new job even if you are laid off. It's not always the man's job unless you both agree on it to be that way. So communicate better with your husband. See if him taking the overseas job would be better or if it's something he's willing to do. If you don't have a job then how are some ways you will be contributing to the household while you're unemployed??
2006-09-29 08:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really willing to be separated for long periods of time? If you are then maybe u should look a little closer at your relationship. My husband has had several jobs where he was away from home, & I hated every minute of it. There also was a time when I thought the same thing. Why should I have to work? The thing is you both have to agree if your going to stay home or not. If your marriage was better when you were working then maybe you should go back to work.
2006-09-29 08:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by SHELLBELL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person that said what era are you living in. Sweety that was true back in the day, but in the modern times it's both parties that need to be out there making the money. I think he should take the job as well not only is the money good, but it might be the chance he needs to better himself. But lets get real with prices the way they are these days both parties need to work, regaurdless of how much they make because it takes alot to raise a family.
2006-09-29 08:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by funlovingwomannky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no in today's world it can take 2 incomes, so its both of yours and your husbands job to make money.
Be a women and only stay home if that is the role needed at home for now, for the kids, etc. Make a stand for yourself, but don't support him either. There are a lot of men out there that have jobs.
2006-09-29 08:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the reason that woman were discriminated against when so many people thought the way you do. My mother was unable to get a good job when my dad left us because the men who did the same job were responsible for raising a family and my mom was paid minimum wage. This kind of thinking is totally wrong and harms women and children for no good reason.
Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-09-29 09:23:40 · answer #6 · answered by msqtech 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In your world it might be but reality is that marriage involves a lot of effort from both. How would you feel if your husband said he should never wash the dishes because you are the woman and it is your job?
I realize if it is financially sound that one of you stays home to care for the household because even that involves each other contributing to the family but it is wrong to say you should stay home because it is his job to make more.
Good luck.
2006-09-29 08:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's selfish.
Some people are very blessed to be able to stay home with their kids and others are not.
But assuming that it is his responsibility kinda throws womens lib - right out the window. Why should he do it alone?
How about YOU take the over seas job and let him stay home?
2006-09-29 08:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by WhatNext 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What era were you born. To think that you husband should be your soul provider is outdated thinking. We as women can support ourselves. Can it be that you just want to stay home and be lazy? Why should he have to work harder? Don't you care enough to help him out so he can maybe spend more time with you not away from you. Start thinking about someone other than yourself. Sorry that's what I think.
2006-09-29 08:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by smile4u 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My personal opinion is that husband and wife should work together and share as much of the responsibilities as possible. Support one another, that way no one becomes resentful.
2006-09-29 08:25:16 · answer #10 · answered by beattyb 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Would you want to go overseas and be away from your family? Get real. It's not all about money.
2006-09-29 08:24:05 · answer #11 · answered by Georgia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋