ok this is what i've noticed...the married women who say that their marriage are perfect, their husbands are mostly cheating on them...or on yahoo answers when they ask is it true that your marriae is the happiest or how did it last so long, it's mostly the women who answers! men and women see things so differently! this woman 2 weeks ago told me that she has never been so happy, i saw he today, well the day b4 yesterday her hubby left her for another woman! why are some of us so blind? have you guys noticed that by any chance??
2006-09-29 08:20:32 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a very perfect example...my ex of 2 years just got married...we saw each other at a party and asked about his wife [who is very lovely] she said she was at home....he came to me and was like me being married doesnt mean anything for us if you know what i mean....what the hell is that about!!!
2006-09-29 08:38:12 · update #1
True. A guy from work kept trying to get me to sleep with him, even though he was living with someone else. He would bring his girlfriend to social functions and she would go on and on about how much he loved her and how perfect they were together and that they were getting married some day. At a trade show in another city he made repeated attempts to sleep with me and other women from our work, some were married. He started disrupting my life at work and would not stop so I called his house and TOLD his live-in girlfriend what he was up to. He did not even deny it when she confronted him. She flipped out and got pissed at ME and told our boss. Our boss (Male) told ME it was time for one of us to go and guess who it ended up being? Unfortunately, this is about the 10th time a similar thing happened. I am amazed at how many guys cheat that seeem happy on the outside. I know some women do too, but I know lots of secrets and it is usually the man who is involved with someone else and not the woman.
2006-09-29 08:28:45 · answer #1 · answered by cadodevine 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm married and am happy and I KNOW that he feels the same. Is our marriage perfect? No. No one's marriage is and the ones who think it is are not living in the real world. Every relationship has it's ups and downs. But to say that if you're happy in your marriage and think that your husband is the best does NOT by any means that you are being cheated on!
By the way the reason women answer more is that it's mostly going to be women who even bother reading the relationship questions.
2006-09-29 08:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, women talk about their relationships and emotions more. They enjoy affirmation and look for it in their marriage. But it's wrong to over-generalize this.
In my marriage, my wife is more pessimistic than I am. We both perceive and want different things, and I have more "flex" in my interpretation of where things are, whereas she has very specific guidelines for when things are "good" versus "bad."
So, often, I'm the one who fluctuates -- thinking things will work out despite the difficulties, then finding out SHE'S the one having serious questions and feeling terrible.
I think personality (whether one is active or passive, imaginative or practical, emotional or thinking-based, traditional vs liberal) has a large impact on how a man or woman perceives the condition of the relationship and would change your scenario.
Some people also perceive problems but can't deal emotionally with them, so they rationalize them away and convince themselves everything is great -- until the bottom falls out from under them. This sounds like what happened to your friend.
2006-09-29 08:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a lot of fiction on Yahoo Answers and people like to ask sensational questions to amuse themselves. There are some happy marriages and some unhappy ones and probably a whole lot that flux between the two.
2006-09-29 08:24:23 · answer #4 · answered by Signilda 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No one has a perfect marriage. God knows mine isn't. I have a good marriage, but not a perfect one. I know my husband is not cheating on me. How do I know this you ask? Because no other woman would put up with him like I do. ha ha
2006-09-29 08:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband would answer, but he's at work all day and doesn't have time to be messing around on Yahoo. Actually, I don't have time either but I do it anyway.
Our marriage is perfect, but my idea of perfect is probably realistic. I don't expect a romance novel, so perfect is relative.
2006-09-29 08:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have noticed that too. You also have to love the people who have perfect children. Then you find out they are in jail. They who yell the loudest. I feel gloating comes back to bite you in the ***. When my husband and I have been married 50 years I will think about singing his greatness until then he is just human and if he eats in bed one more time I will have to beat him.
2006-09-29 08:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by rollerbabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so glad to see that I am not the only one with this opinion!! My Sister in law and brother in law have "the perfect marraige" and "the perfect kids".
My husband and I have our problems and we work them out but it seems that they just act fake a lot.
P.S. --- they have been married twice. she left him the first time cause he threatened to kill her AND beat her as well. As she was leaving, he tried to run her over!!!! She remarried him a year later and they are back to perfection once again!! God help us all.
2006-09-29 08:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by patti_jim_reynolds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have not noticed that. Usually when bad things are going down people dont go around saying everything's perfect. God, my marriage is great, I hope my hubby isnt cheating on me! lol
2006-09-29 08:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes i have and the main reason is most married people are comfortable in there relationship. but what they forget is that comfort come with a cost.. i been happily married for over 8 years now and i have learned that i have to keep my wife guessing on how are relationship is. by me doing this i keep are relationship new and fun. my wife has no idea what i going to do to her next and that the way i like it and that the way she love it..
2006-09-29 08:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋