My husband an I have been together for 4 years but only married 14 months. The other day he said he was no longer in love with me but still loved me. Of course i'm devistated because he is the love of my life and i don't understand all this. First off we've fought a lot lately because he spends most of his time on the computer. but his reasoning is because he's unhappy with the fact that we had to move back into my parents house to save money because his job was ending. we agreed to stay there and save up to relocate. now that we have the money he says he's not in love with me. What can I do to show him every relationship has ruts and thats what this is. up until last week he sent me regular text messages saying he loved and adored me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. That is how i still feel. needledd to say he moved out and wants to try a trial separation, to see if his feelings retrun. Please help me!!!!!!!! i want my husband the love of my life back.
2006-09-29 08:13:55 · 6 answers · asked by Mrs. Sunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can not force a person to feel something that they do not. However, you can discuss your feelings for each other and see if there is some way to work things out so that you can stay together. Marriage is a lot of work both mentally and physically. Both have to try to keep a marriage healthy. Just remember one thing, there is a large difference in what is wanted and what is needed.
Also take into consideration that perhaps he is going through a bit of a rough patch losing his job. Let him get himself another job and get his confidence back up. Be considerate and allow him time to get himself together.
2006-09-29 08:27:43 · answer #1 · answered by T C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trail separation is what you need, that is just about all you can do. If he still says he doesn't love you anymore set him free, you can't make someone love you no matter how hard you try. Get on with your life because he maybe gone for good, looks that way to me..
2006-09-29 15:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if he got tangled with someone on the internet.
Don't blame your self and don't let him blame you. He blew it , he is cheating and wants to break free because he thinks that the grass is greener on the other side.
I'm so sorry. Be strong. Good luck
2006-09-29 15:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutly nothing you can do. This is something that he has to figure out on his own. Sure it sucks and it hurts but you can not run after him as all it would do is just push him further away. Sorry:(
2006-09-29 15:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, he met someone else online and is trying to dump you. Tell him he's free to go, cut your losses and get a divorce
2006-09-29 15:30:03 · answer #5 · answered by rjinsanjo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry honey.I know it hurts but You have to be strong and show it to him.If you keep on follow him he will play game and hurt you again and again.
I will pray for you.
2006-09-29 15:47:55 · answer #6 · answered by Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋