to tell or not to tell?

Question

my boyfriend is on tour with his band right now and im at home alone in our new place and i just moved down here. one friend that i do have around this area is a guy i dated briefly but we never made it and he ended up screwing my friend behind my back anyway. we talk a couple of times and are planning to go out on a motorcycle ride, for old times and somthing to get me outa the house. i know nothing is going to happen, for he has kids and i have a boyfriend and we're pretty committed to both and wouldnt screw it up for the world. im only wondering if i should let my boyfriend in on the fact that ill be going on a motorcycle ride, 1, and 2 its with a guy friend of mine...who he already knows about being my ex so i dont have to tell him THAT part. BUT yeh...should i tell him just so he knows ... or avoid it because its not even that ig of a deal?

Answer 1

i think it is kind of a big deal because of the past issue but you should tell him because if he finds out from someone else, he might leave u and he ll definately be more angry than if u told him in the first place

Answer 2

To be honest, I don't think I'd go on the ride at all. He doesn't sound very trust-worthy (he screwed your friend behind your back) and in my experience, most men don't want "friends" they want "FRIENDS" if you get my drift. You don't want to screw things up with your boyfriend, right? And ask yourself how you would feel if your BF took one of his ex's out (even if they were only friends now)? Don't do it girl!

Answer 3

Hmmm, well, if you're honest and you're committed, you might tell him - just casually, in conversation. If you don't, you know, karma can be a *****! You might go out with your old boyfriend and have a crash on that motorcycle, then your current boyfriend will be double-pissed because he wants to know what you're doing on the motorcycle with your old boyfriend!

Yeah, tell him - let him know. It's harmless, and if he trusts you - then he'll be alright with it.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I don't believe that you are going on a bike ride with your ex and saying you know nothing would happen. Why do you want to put yourself in that situation to start with. This is not about telling your boy friend, I think it's absurd that you are still leading your "ex" on. Why do you see him as an ex if you are still going out with him.

Answer 5

Tell him, he's your boyfriend for crying out loud. It's not like he's gonna come back and ask the other guy what his intentions are. If your present guy knows the other guy but doesn't trust him then start worrying.

Answer 6

If he has trust in you then it really doesn't matter. You're just trying to have fun and become familiar with your new surroundings. So I don't see anything wrong with that. If he get upset about it then maybe you need to figure out if he's the one you really want to be with. Good luck!

Answer 7

I hate to say this but usally guys in a band are very hard to deal with you need to do what feels right

Answer 8

I would be honest with him, he might hear about some place else. If it is no big deal, why not tell? Would you want him to tell you if he did something with an ex?

Answer 9

Please, don't tell him. Look at it this way - no good will ever come of it, except you feeling slightly less guilty for 2 seconds until you realize you've hurt him, then feel even guiltier.

You know you want to do it, so do whatever; we only live once. But there's no need to broadcast your escapades

Answer 10

Telling him may remove the temptation to allow it to become a "big deal". If you don't tell him and he hears about it from somebody else it will look like a "big deal".