am I a raciest?

Question

How do I get my daughter to understand that I'm not raciest but only concerned about how black men see women ,I have good friends that are black but every one of them have one or two girls on the side married or not.
so you see it's not racism as much as an objection to a lifestyle
does this wash?

Answer 1

No your not your just concerned about your kid I am sick and tired of all this **** If a person even looks at a black person any more its"being a racest" but it doesn't matter what a black does to a white,mexician ect. its a ok.

Answer 2

yes its raciest. You are judging all black men from the couple of pigs u know. All races have pigs so don't go around telling your daughter that ALL black men are dogs.


Ive been with my man 5 years, he is a good black man. I'm white we have mixed kids. He doesn't have girls on the side, neither does his 5 brothers.

Just teach your dd not to put up with that in any race.

Answer 3

well, i don't think you are racist. however, you need to realize, that you are only going by the good friends you know who are black. i have known many black men who do not see women that way. i do realize and validate your concerns, based on YOUR experiences.

however, please know that this occurs just as often w/ white man, hispanic men, asian men, and every other race of men. sometimes, a large factor can be income level. i know that sounds horrible but true. infidelity is seen highly among those in poverty. seems as though it is some sort of connection between sadness/depression/discontent with life, and trying to fill the holes you feel. now, thats not saying everyone who is not middle class or wealthy is an adulterer/adulteress. and its not saying that higher earning people are exempt from such an act.

however, this is just what is statistically more common. and statistically, blacks/african americans/ whatever you deem appropriate (the friends i've had preferred black, but i guess everyone has a different opinion on the subject) generally make up a large portion of the impoverished. as more and more people immigrate, hispanics also add to this group. but that by no means makes them bad people, you know? a white man in the same situation isn't going to make a different decision because he is white.

ultimately, let your daughter make her own decisions about who to date/marry/etc. you might be suprised. she is going to end up getting her heart broke by many men. black, white, purple, green, blue. it happens. i don't think you are racist, but i do think you are slightly closed minded on this subject. look at it globally... not just at your experience. hope this helps.

Answer 4

The fact that you use the word black men, that is generalizing and that is racist. I bet you do have good friends who are white that have one or two girls on the side too. If these people are truly your good friends like you said, you need to start by talking to them and making them understand how wrong their actions are instead of feeding your daughter with the wrong notion that black men are no good for her.

Answer 5

I think the term racist is tossed around way too much. If a guy is telling his daughter she cant hang out with a black kid and that guy gets good grades and is keeping his nose clean then he is mostly just being racist. If the kid is only hanging out with other black kids, acting like someone you see in a gangsta vid, disrespecting authority then he has a right to warn his daughter about a culture that invented the words "baby's daddy."

Answer 6

No, I dont think you are a racist sir. You are just a women's father. I guess she is very pretty right. I feel the same way about my younger sister only not to black dudes but "mareros". You will always try to protect her and that's ok, but sooner or later you'll have to accept the fact that she needs more freedom and she will have to make her own mistakes in order to learn. Eventually you will find that not all black people are the same as the stereotypes you hear, some are very educated ansd courteous people in fact most are

Answer 7

It's difficult. The only time your daughter has seen you express this attitude is towards black men, I'm assuming she's quite young and therefore she's likely to make very basic links between these things.

You've got to tone down your objections towards these particular gentlemen whilst making sure you point it out when you see it in other people who do it who aren't black.

Answer 8

Racist is a little strong for this. I do think this lifestyle you describe is not exclusive for black man, but is also popular with a lot of other people.

And the reason is attracted to anybody in particular? If not, then just let her meet your friends and make sure she understand what they are doing. If she is smart she will then soon understand you point of view.

Answer 9

I would tell your daughter that you don't approve of the lifestyle choices SOME black men make (not all of them see white women like that) and tell her to watch out for a particular behavior instead of a particular race. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Hmmm...I have an issue too of how black men see women and the ironic part is that I am black. No, I wouldn't say that you are being racist you are stating an opinion/concern and yiou are entitled to your opinions. Just explain that to your daughter--I sure she will understand.

Answer 11

Your view is racist because you are generalizing the behavior of your friends to the behavior of all blacks.

Racism is just generalizing. In this case, you're saying that every black man is like your friends. Of course they aren't.

Compare to say a white family of thieves. Say, your whole family were thieves except for you. How would it feel if everyone assumed you are a thief too?

We are individuals. Not blacks or whites or whatever.