Okay, we are pregnant, let's say we are in our mid twenties, have less then 4 children and more then 2. LOL.
My family will not be happy. Most of our siblings have been trying for some time now, and to us it comes so easy.
How to we break the news?
We have about 2 weeks till I enter my second trimester.
(why do I post a child nobody wants? Becuase I feel they will be jelous and wish it was them and not us)
2006-09-29 07:30:43 · 22 answers · asked by Make u 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well so be it if they are jealous. congrats to you .
2006-09-29 07:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by bobsdidi 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am 24 and my husband and I have 2 children and he has another son. When I got pregnant with my daughter we didn't know how to tell everyone b/c our daughter was only 12 weeks old. I refused to tell my mom, so my husband called and told her and I could hear him telling her that she better act happy! It wasn't funny then, but it is now. anyway, it isn't your fault that you guys are more fertile than them. Just break it. If they don't like it or say tacky stuff keep your distance for a while. They will get over it!
2006-09-29 08:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having a similar problem. When I was pregnant with my 1st, my sister-in-law was carrying also. She miscarried and made me feel terrible that my child survived and hers didn't. Well 8 years down the road and she is finally carrying a child to term. I couldn't be happier for her and my brother. Here is where the problem comes in. I found out I was pregnant shortly after she told me she was pregnant. There is no doubt about it that she is going to have an absolute cow. i didn't do it on purpose. My pregnancy was not planned.
I have had to distance myself from my SIL due to her attitude. I am overjoyed for her and her baby, but I refuse to let my child be disregarded because she had to wait so long for her miracle.
A child is a blessing. You shouldn't be afraid to tell your family about your pregnancy. If they love you, they will get over their feelings of jealousy and be happy for you and the newest addition to your family.
2006-09-29 12:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all congrats to you both, secondly I know exactly what you are talking about, when my husband and I conceived our first after a month of trying his older brother and his wife basically threw a hissy fit because they had been trying for like a year. So yeah they ruined the moment, but they didn't ruin our lives. If they hold resentment against myself, my husband, or our son that is their problem. I am going to live my life, love my family and enjoy all of the wonderful things that each of my children has brought into my life. If they can't be happy for you, family or not, you can't let it ruin your excitement and love for your child.
2006-09-29 07:55:29 · answer #4 · answered by bluekitty8098 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never be scared or ashamed to tell your family about a new little one thats soon to be apart of your family. they should be happy for you and if they arnt then to bad for them. i'm sure your other siblings will have children some day and when they do you should be just as happy (which im sure you will). Just tell them over a family dinner or something.
2006-09-29 07:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by bumblebeetuna 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your family isn't happy for you just because they haven't got kids yet, then they're some sick people. They might be jealous, which is understandable, especially if they're having fertility problems, but not being happy for you is wrong.
I suggest just telling them. They won't respond to the "cute" things that a lot of people(including myself) did to tell their family, if they aren't happy for you.
I'm sorry your family can't be happy for you.
2006-09-29 07:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by E's Mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too bad...its not your fault. While compassion for them is nice you can't put your life and your wants before someone in your family that can't have that...If I was in the postion of not being able...I would never expect you to not have a baby or 3 if you could.
2006-09-29 07:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congratulations on your wonderful news. I am sure this is difficult for you, but if your family loves you they will be happy for you. If they are not happy, they can all go jump off a cliff. You should not be denied your happiness because of their problems.
2006-09-29 07:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes
2006-09-29 07:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by Knight H 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congrats!
You tell them by just telling them. If you make a big deal you are mean they'll say, but if you act unhappy you'll seem unfit. So damn if you do and damn if you don't. Just find a medium. You can't please everyone and this is a special moment.
2006-09-29 08:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by froggielover72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! This must be the most schmaltz I've seen by so many people who have NOT EVEN ANSWERED THE QUESTION!
How? I'll tell you how. You say, "we are pregnant". But don't say "We are pregnant AGAIN." ...and try not to be overly excited...it kinda rubs it in.
PS. All this schmaltz makes me want to vomit.
2006-09-29 07:46:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋