A couple nights in a row my husband got a phone call from his one guy friend. He told me that he's friend was coming home from a lowes and that his friend needed help getting things into his house. He did the same thing the next day after this happened. When his friend called my husband used short answers like ok sounds good.Then he left for 15-20 minutes. When he got home he looked depressed and kept hugging me and talking real nice. He is NOT an Affectionate person at all any other time. Before he left the second night he took a shower and when he came home his clothes smelled like snuff. He leaves for about 15-20 minutes. Could he be using drugs or cheating?
2006-09-29 07:26:07 · 27 answers · asked by oneredhotmama09 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well with the short periods of time he is gone I wouldn't say he was cheating but it could be drugs. Are you on top of your finaces? you could see if he is spending more $$ then usual and and play the detective thing, or you could just sit him down and talk to him about your concerns. Good luck and I hope you get everything worked out.
2006-09-29 07:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by Icara4ewu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odd behavior. I doubt he's cheating. 15-20 minutes is awfully short. He'd be missing for hours if it was a woman.
Does he have a history that might lead you to believe he is using drugs? How are his pupils? I would be suspicious too. Can you guys talk? I don't know if its drugs, but something is up. Maybe the guy friend is going through something that has your husband upset and he needs hugs. I really can't say. Trust your instinct. You know him better than anyone. I'd go ahead and talk this out with him and look at him a little closer until I got to the bottom of it if I were you. Best of luck. Hope its something silly.
2006-09-29 14:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First check out he number of the person calling. Find out if it is his friend. Now, could he just be drinking. Some people get very affectionate after a few beers. If it is drugs, you have to stop it. Don't put up with it for any reason!
2006-09-29 15:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by SHELLBELL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly i have been through this.. more than once. First thing you need to do... is find out for sure what it is he is doing..Just be blunt and very straight up about what you want to know. Next thing is.. if you dont get any answers from him that put your mind at ease.. then check the bank account to see if money is being taken out.. and then check to see if the times he was gone.. and the times the money was taken out are around the same. Then.. confront him again!! But most of all, don't play and dont let him play you. Make sure he knows you have reasons to not trust him and if this is the way he wants to live.. you want no part of it.
2006-09-29 14:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by johnson72269 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is cheating, I dont think that he is going to smell like snuff. If it is drugs, look at his eyes-make him look you in the eyes.
Ask him if you can come along, you want to get out of the house too.
If you are still in doubt, just ask him. It is not good for your relationship to always have that chip on your shoulder trying to figure out what he is doing. Good luck, and I wish you the best!
2006-09-29 14:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by elliemae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in 15 or 20 minutes I highly doubt he's cheating. But I would definately worry about drugs. He is hugging out of guilt i would assume, so something smells fishy. Ask him whats up or call the friend if you can.
2006-09-29 14:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is only leaving for 15-20 minutes, I don't think that he is cheating. I don't really think there is even enough evidence to say he is using drugs. Just watch him for awhile and see if anything else strange is going on. It all sounds pretty innocent to me at this point.
2006-09-29 14:30:10 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prolly not cheating, if he's only gone for 15-20 minutes. Drugs are a possibility, but your evidence is light. Do you have any other reasons to suspect this? I'd caution against jumping to conclusions in any case.
Have you talked to him about your concerns? What did he say?
2006-09-29 14:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he's cheating there isn't enough time.He may be using drugs.What kind of drugs do you suspect.You can look up the side effects of different drugs and maybe pinpoint which one he is using.Or look up code words used for the drug and see if your husband uses those words when he's on the phone.You could also ask his family if he seems different to them.
2006-09-29 14:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by katzgto67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he's cheating. Most likely drugs. Pot always makes me jolly, but depression could be a sign.
Talk to him try and find out how bad it is. I doubt it's as bad as you think, but try and find out what kind of drug and how mucj. a pot habit is easy to break since the addiction is pyschological and not pyshical. Other drugs are more serious though.
2006-09-29 14:41:16 · answer #10 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋