married man, cheats says he does not love his wife,,, but he does not want to leave and says his wife will turn his kids against him,,, and he cant but them through that,,, but surely she deserves to be loved trully any answers please.
2006-09-29 07:22:46 · 50 answers · asked by KAT M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Same reason as why this married woman doesn't leave, we both have family that we don't want to upset. So we steal time when we can, and live at home pretending to be ok. That way everyone is happy most of the time. Not ideal but the best we have right now.
2006-09-29 09:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is little to doubt that the married man doesn't love or respect his wife and marriage the same if he can go out and cheat. That's why many of them do, because they no longer have feelings the same for their wife.
Yes his wife does deserve to be truly loved and he is only holding her back from giving her her freedom to find true love with someone else.
Why? more so because men are more frightened to leave their security blanket and what is familiar to them for a life alone. Why leave, if you don't have to, having their cake and eating it is better for them and as long as they have a doormat wife at home, they can still pretend to love and cherish, then why not.
That's until they get found out of course and then its all the grovelling and pleading to stay and try again. A situation I am in but beginning to see things now with a bit more clarity. I probably should have booted his backside into touch.
He's not being at all fair to his wife and kids at all and he's only making excuses to stay with his wife by saying his wife will turn the kids against him. Children should never be used as a weapon in any marriage, broken down or otherwise.
If he really loved his wife he would never cheat period.
2006-09-29 07:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive the reason why married men cheat is because they are a bunch of punks. They try to act like they are all mocho and tough, but deep down they ain't worth a hill of beans. Most men cheat to see if they can get away with it and when they get caught they punk up and act like a big baby because they know they gonna lose everything in divorce court, the house, children, wife, money and whatever. So why cheat? If you know you ain't gonna be able to live up to your manhood and pay the price for committing adultry don't do it. Married men be a real man and stop sinning against God cause when you cheat on your wife you cheat on God. I feel like this if you don't beleive that you can stay faithful to your spouse don't get married simple as that.
2006-10-01 15:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by Gladys D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This married man is a liar, as well as a cheat! And he is not unusual...most cheaters are like this..they have no intentions of leaving their wives, from the start, it was an ego trip, not sex...they tell you all the bad things in their lives, many are fabrications, and the gal on the side gets sucked up into the web...nothing new going on here. Even if he WERE to leave, he would be cheating on you within weeks..trust in that one! Where do you live that you think you are the one that is different?
2006-09-29 07:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are seeing a married man I feel sorry for you, they get confused unfortunately and dont know what to do. Yes their wives deserve better treatment and if there wernt problems they would be looking elsewhere, but somehow they have parellel lives which dont cross over - Think as the wife as the comfy pair of slippers, they are old and tired but they feel comfortable , the mistress is like a smart pair of shoes worn on special occasion, shiny exiting and new... good to wear occasionally but you wouldnt feel comforatble watching the telly wearing them. If I was you put this bloke to test, tell him if he doesnt decide which he wants, you will not see him again and if he diesnt contact you with better prospects in a month kick him to the kirb - you owe it to yourself
2006-09-30 04:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by good girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the reason he does not leave is because he wants to have input into raising his kids. He may also see what he has in the marriage as safe and secure. Yes, a woman deserves to be loved by her husband. It's hard when kids are involved because what is best for the kids is not always what is best for the adults. My advise is to do what is best for the kids even if it means living with a man who does not love you. This man will have to answer for his behavior one day so don't let his poor judgment cause you to make a decision that is not in the best interest of your children.
2006-09-29 07:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
married men cheat and do not leave their wives for many reasons he may not love her anymore may be one reason
but other reason are that if they leave the wife gets everything most of the time and devorice is to much truoble the the wife
slaps child support on him that is more he loss in some case some married man who cheat dose it because his wife will not do certain things for him at home or to him so he finds another woman( a home wrecker) to do it for him. most married man like to have their cake and eat it too
2006-09-29 07:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The "other woman" always sees herself as the victim in such cases ... unfortunately it's not that clear cut. The married man must take some blame as he does the cheating and usually clears his conscience by saying stuff like "I'll leave my wife for you" ... but the other woman knows he's married and should really stay clear!
Men usually stay with their wives because they are scared of the repercussions
2006-09-29 08:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all "cheating" isn't just a man thing, women are pretty good at it too. You should stay away from married guys, it's wrong and never goes anywhere. The guy is basically using you for the sex he isn't getting at home period. By the way, it doesn't matter how pretty, smart and a freak in bed you might be, divorce is way to expensive.
2006-09-29 07:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by Olivier P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he put himself through the stress of divorce, being apart from his children whom no doubt he loves dearly, for your sake, when he is getting everything he wants from you anyway?
Also, if he were willing to leave his wife and children, to whom he owes a debt of loyalty, without his wife having actually done anything wrong, and just to be with you, why would he not do the same to you one day? What would his love or promises be worth?
I think you might have made a poor choice here - or in the words of P G Wodehouse "She began to feel that she had made her selection without walking the length of the counter."!
2006-09-29 07:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋