I met a guy who I really liked, but was bad at telling him how I felt, so I did the friends with benifits thing to get close. I asked him out and he said yes. Then he didn't look so sure so I said forget it and continued the friends with benifits. Soon I couldn't hold my feelings back and he stopped calling cause he felt that I was playing mind games. I call him after two months and he forgets who I am for a second. I leave a message cursing him out. He changed his number after a that. Then I decied to apologise for what I done because I really felt bad. I go to his place and tried to apologise, tell him how I felt, and maybe start all over as friends again. He accepts my apology but tells me that I am permantly on his bad list and that all that I told him is meaningless and he wants nothing to do with me. I felt so sad that I criend infront of him but he said that tears mean nothing either. How do I get over this. What do I do?
2006-09-29 07:19:17 · 10 answers · asked by tika ukie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You don't deal, that's why their friends with benefits.
2006-09-29 07:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by lildemon78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many other people out there that you could be friends with benifits. There are so many other fish in the sea for life partners as well. He obiviously dosn't deserve your love. I mean come on! You cried in frount of him!!!! That's a que for a friend to go confert you and all. He failed the friendship test! You need a better friend then what he was. I know you had or still have feelings for him, you need to get pissed that he acted like this, you should be deserving of a better person than him. If you like you could use me as a punching bag and pretend I'm him so you could vent your anger? Or I could just be a friend to ya?
2006-09-29 14:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by Patient NightShade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I think you know sweetie. This guy is obviously not for you. yeah, you liked him, may have even fallin' for him but thats where you fall in trouble when you do the friends with benefits thing. It's cool but you got to play by the rules.
Past is the past, and I wouldn't recommend trying to patch up that one! But for future reference...you should have told him how you felt. It seems like to me, he had the upper hand in the relationship. He probably wanted to know if you liked him or if u were using him. But he was waiting on you. We don't often think like this but men get hurt too and the may not have as many emotions as women but they have emotions and you probably drove him to the cold and heartless stage. So drop him and move on and take this all as a learning lesson. Learn the lesson and keep going girl. There's alot more men out there. Good luck!
PS...It's my 26th B-day today!!!
2006-09-29 14:28:24 · answer #3 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you didn't to intend to play mind games, but that is what you were doing. Chalk that relationship up to experience and go out and meet someone new- just don't do the same thing this time. Whatever you do, don't try to get the friend back. He has already stated that it is over and you should respect him by backing off.
2006-09-29 14:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by gizbit76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You figure out all the lessons you've learned from this, you accept that he's gone from your life, and you don't make the same mistakes with the next guy you like.
And what have you learned from all this? "Friends with benefits" is only a relationship type you should engage in if you're genuinely okay with just being friends. Look at this from his perspective - it really looks like you were only putting out so that you had grounds to corral him into a relationship he wasn't sure he wanted.
2006-09-29 14:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well kick it the curb for the dog that he is. by having his # changed should of opened ur eyes that he was done with ya. that it was clear that he had another. so men r like street cars one comes around every 5 secs. when u least think about finding someone it'll be right in front of u.so just chalk this one up for exprience. better luck on ur hunt for mister right.
2006-09-29 14:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by loca62439 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you might be really sad about this specific situation, it was obviously not meant to be. You really need to move on and start looking for what's right for you. You'll see as soon as you meet someone new how wrong this entire situation was for you.
2006-09-29 14:25:02 · answer #7 · answered by m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to learn from it. Life is full of lessons, a lot of them are painful but maybe you won't have to repeat this one.
Move on.
2006-09-29 14:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lucy E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about him he is selfish for telling you these things , you do not want to be with somebody like this move on and find someone who really cares about u.the friends with benefits thing is not going to work u deserve better girl.he is going to use you dont falll for it move on.
2006-09-29 14:26:38 · answer #9 · answered by marsha w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is, if you live in the houston area, give me a holler....lol
2006-09-29 14:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by jnglfiv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋