i had sex with my boyfrnd now i m pregnant should i tell this to my parents? or should i share this with my boyfrnd and abort this child?? i m vry confused........plz give suggestions................
2006-09-29 06:56:38 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well I think that you should tell your parents and your boyfriend. Though in what order is up to you. If you think you need the support of another person around to tell your parents. Tell your boyfriend first. So he can be ther with you. If you think your boyfriend is going to be unreasonable one, confide in your parents. And let them help you through it. You shouldnt do this alone. And your family should be your best support system. If you feel you cant talk to anyone, find an organization in your area to help you through it. But do not make any decisions on what you are going to do about the preganany until you speak with someone. And please remember, there are alternitives to abortion. I am not trying to be preachy or anything. But I am an infertle women. My husband and I cannot have any children of our own. I am lucky that he has 2 children from a previous marriage. But there are many women out there like myself who desperately want a child. Give that some thought before you decide anything.
2006-09-29 07:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to keep this baby? Or do you want to continue the pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption? Or would you prefer to end the pregnancy now? These are things you need to consider. First of all, tell your boyfriend, he has a right to know and he needs to be part of the decision. Contact a pregnancy counseling center to discuss all three options. If you still live with your parents, they are going to figure out you are pregnant. It would be better for you to be mature and tell them, rather then let them figure it out on their own. Whatever you decide, good luck, and from now on, always, always use a condom.
2006-09-29 07:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been with your boyfriend? how old are you? i deff say thay if you feel you are not ready, you are not ready! and whats worse than bringing a child into the world if their life will be messed up? im not saygin you will be a bad mother! its just somethign to think about. there are also plenty of couple out there that cannot have children becaseu if biological reasons. they would no sonner take a breath than accept and love your child as if it was their own. it does sound like you are young. i highly recomend thinking about your future. with a child thing will be a lot harder to accomplish. not only will you have to clean after yourself, but after the child aswell...a baby is a lot of resposability.. its a 24 hour job for at leasr 18 years.
2006-09-29 07:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by plsdontask 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are below 18 suggest you info your parent together with your boyfrnd and face the worse scream ever (remember your boyfrnd has to face it with you after all he is also responsible for your pregnancy)
if you are above 21, you are an adult and should decide yourselves what to do.
2006-09-29 07:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to share this with your parents as soon as possible. The first few minutes of that may be very uncomfortable, but once they get through the initial shock, they can help you rationally deal with the situation. Please do not try to get an abortion without your parents knowing. You will need them now, more than ever, for emotional support.
2006-09-29 07:01:42 · answer #5 · answered by Cara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1- How old are you?
2- Do you have an open relationship with your parents?
3- How far along are you?
4- Why are you telling complete strangers instead of your family? They might have more support than you think.
If you didn't want to become pregnant, you shoudln't have had sex.
2006-09-29 11:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by squeekmnstr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would talk to my parents and boyfriend, I always tell my mom, first, then my boyfriend.
The abort baby thing is all up to you and your boyfriend.
And parents if under 18, if under 18 your parents I think have to sign for you to do it.
Abortions cost different depending on how far along you are.
2006-09-29 07:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by Tuty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definetely need to tell your boyfriend; he has the right to know. Then you need to decide if you are going to keep it or abort it.
I had an abortion once... I DONT recommend it. It was a decision I will regret for the rest of my life. You need to make this decision with your boyfriend and dont wait on it. If you decide you will have the baby then tell your parents. Its your decision to tell your parents if you decide to abort it.
2006-09-29 07:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by mom123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both... and no abortion. there are thousands of women out there who cannot have children... if you do not want your child, put it up for adoption... let the child live, and another family have their dream of having a child. could you really look yourself in the mirror knowing that you killed an innocent child as a form of birthcontrol due to your personal lack of responsibility? That's pretty messed up.
2006-09-29 07:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you sound way to young to be having sex, if you can't deal with the results you need to not do it in the first place. Second you need to tell your boyfriend and find out where he stands on the baby issue. Third, your parents need to know as soon as possible.
2006-09-29 06:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋