Recently I broke my trust with my best friend.She trusted me completely,with her life and the life of her kids.I broke her trust by doing what i said I'd never do and that was lie to her and I said some awful things to her,called her awful things,things I know arent true,were never true.I just said them to hurt her and that was wrong.I feel like a complete failure when I look at her now,that I let her down.She has a hard time trusting men and I was suppose to show her that i was one she could trust and there was a time where I was.She has said that we should start from ground zero and that time would tell if things would ever go back to the way they were.I have no idea how to gain her trust back.Her friendship is one of the most important things in my life and I realize the huge mistake I made and I would do anything humanly possible to get it back to the way it was,is that even possible?
2006-09-29 06:50:20 · 6 answers · asked by Jason W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You pretty much have to demonstrate that you're trustworthy. And that means saying you'll do something and then doing it (or saying you won't, and then not doing it).
If you have to go on a trip somewhere, tell her you'll call and let her know you arrived safely. Then do so.
If y'all decide you want to do something together, offer to drive and tell her you'll pick her up around 7:30. Then be there at 7:30 - or, if traffic is more nightmarish than you anticipated, make sure you're on the phone to her at 7:25 telling her exactly where you are and how fast traffic is moving.
Things like that - showing that your word means something - is part of the whole trust building.
2006-09-29 06:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so sad. You have made a HUGE mistake. Once that type of trust is broken, even if the two of you were to work it out, things will NEVER be the same. Unfortunatly you cannot take back all of the things that you said. You can try to explain to her that they were out of anger, but some things cut so deep that they cannot be forgotten. Sometimes things are better expressed in writing. I think you should go and buy an Im sorry card and put a very heartfelt apology in there. I really hope the best for you and that everything works out. Hopefuly everything will work out for you and you will learn from this and never let it happen again.
2006-09-29 15:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by SissyK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is willing to give you a chance sure its possible. Since she is giving you another chance you can only take it step by step and own up to the promises you made. Don't rush it and don't push it. Be the man you were when she did trust you and NEVER blow it again. I also want to commend you for recognizing how bad you screwed up and not trying to weasel out of anything you said or did. You sound like you really desevrve the 2nd chance.. G'luck
2006-09-29 13:56:19 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you are not perfect and you are human and humans makes mistake and tell her that you are willing to work on yourself and change some of your ways. show her that she can trust you. its going to take sometime though. don't go out there and do the same things you use to do. take out sometime for you yourself and get to know yourself. if that mean not being around men for a whole six months make that a goal of yours. showing is much better and just saying it
2006-09-29 14:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by liljov2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all we need to know what happend with the kids if they were involved or what but if that is the case a child is a parents #1 worry. Start talking to her like you normally would. Be friends with her. play with her kids. just be yourself and treat her like a queen.
2006-09-29 13:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by Tinkerbelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on the level of love in the friendship, love for a friend will always be there no matter what. Love is forgiveness
2006-09-29 14:21:29 · answer #6 · answered by Mysique_X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋