what should I do?

Question

Me and my boyfriend, we have some problems...I love him, he says he loves me too but there are 2 weeks now since he acts strange: he never has time for me.I always get the second place.I give him everything and I expect the same thing from him.I am sad every day and I have a feeling of anxiety every moment of the day.Should I brake up with him?

Answer 1

People will only treat you as well as you teach them to. I believe, without a shadow of a doubt, that if you feel something is off in your relationship - there is. Treat yourself with respect and others will too. If your self-esteem and sanity is being compromised you owe it to your self to BREAK it off with him.

Answer 2

Before you go jumping the gun. and regretting what you have done find out what it is that's making him like this .
It could be a work related problem or a family issue or even health problem so give him some time and be supportive as it may be lots of reasons why he is acting this way and in the end if if it is someone else at least you are doing it for the right reasons.
He might just want to not hurt you!
I hope it works out for you.

Answer 3

If you respect yourself enough,maybe letting go would be the best thing to do . Boyfriends are a dime a dozen . When you find the one who really wants to be with you . You will Know . It won't be all about sex either . You said you give him every thing. Why BUY THE COW IF YOUR GETTING THE MILK FOR FREE. In his eyes your just a un-paid hooker who he has had fun with ....Now he's off doing it with some other stupid gal that thinks "He said he loves me and I believed him. " If you don't see it your probably too young to have a mature relationship. Get yourself on the pill if you haven't already . There are too many kids that never know who there Father was ....

Answer 4

no.

do not break up with him over this.
it could be that he is having some problems of his own... maybe he's not sure if he wants to talk to you about it.
you should ask him if something's wrong. assure him that he can talk to you about anything- then just sit back, and listen.
you could tell him that you don't think you guys are doing/ communicating that well recently. trust me... if he Loves you, he'll be worried that he might lose you for lack of communication. then he'll probably say- "what's wrong??"
and if he really wants to know, that's the perfect time for you to honestly say, "i dunno, it just seems like you're not yourself lately... that you've got too much goin' on for me..."
don't acuse him... leave any statement open for him to redeem himself.
he may then tell you what's up- "oh, Baby, i'm sorry! i've just been really busy and stressed out lately. i didn't mean to not pay attention to you!"

just don't blow up on him. DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS!!!
assumptions could hurt both of you way more than you think he's hurting you!!!
"Love is patient... kind,... it is not rude,... it is not self-seeking,... it keeps no record of wrongs,... Love never ends..."

- I Corinthians 13.

i think that whether you're a Christian or not, you'd enjoy that passage. check it out.
don't give up on someone you Love so easily.
other people have been where you are- you're not alone!
continue to Love him... stick it out... and he will Love and appreciate you all the more for it.


hope things work.

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- Silence Dogood

Answer 5

No, don't break up with him.

Slowly and secretively, start backing off, little by little over the next two weeks (get together with some old friends - do things without him - casually mention how much fun you had - take up a hobby you're interested in, but one that he had no idea you were interested in - that will mind-f*ck him good).

If he doesn't come back to you, let him go and you'll be saving yourself some heartache.

Be strong and be in control of this little experiment of yours called, If you love someone, let them go - If they come back...well, you know how it goes.

Hope this helps

Answer 6

Before you break up you need to pick your face up off the floor! Why dish out everything to a guy who has no respect for you? You don't need that kind of crap. He's showing you exactly how he feels. You're worth more than this, girl! Don't keep chasing after him. You know, if you keep chasing live chickens they will keep running as long as you keep running! Wake up and smell the coffee cuz it's boiling, burning and spilling on the floor! When you get your dignity back you'll find more peace of mind!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

I have felt that sort of thing many times in my 42 years.

All we can do is say how we feel. If the person responds and says how he or she feels then maybe you have something. If not, eventually you have to just move on. If somebody values someone, they MAKE time for them. When I hear talk of a busy schedule and crap like that, I think, oh well, it wouldn't work.

Answer 8

Run after 2 years? No! Ask if there is anything that you can do to ease his tension since you noticed that he hasn't been himself lately. This may open the door for some serious discussion. Also, he maybe doing the usual and its just you that's looking at things differently.

****Good luck!

Answer 9

Talk to him , don't whine about how you feel ( not saying that you do but men find it annoying). Try to get to the root of the problem. If you find that he still tells you nothing is wrong and continues to act shady it may be that he doesn't want to be with you and doesn't want to hurt you or deal with the confrontation. Pay strong attention to women's intuition.

Answer 10

First you should try to talk to him about the problem. If you acts as if nothing is wrong with him and nothing changes then you should probably end the relationship. It's not healthy for you to be in a relationship like that.