me and my bf broke up about 3 weeks ago and havent been talkin to each other even tho we both agreed we would be friends. i still love him and ive told him how i feel about a week ago, and i dont know if i should send him an IM just sayin hi. i dont want to seem desperate for his attention, so i dont know if sending him an IM will appear that way. i really miss him, and i care for him and still have strong feelings for him. i havent sent him any IMs or emails in about a week, the last email i sent him was the one telling him how i feel, he sent me a IM back saying "thank you for making me happy. sorry i dont love you, bye, i wont forget u either" i was thinking that if he didnt care for me as at least a friend he wouldnt have said anything, so should i send him an IM sayin "hey, just wanted to say hi, hope youre doin ok. later"
2006-09-29 06:43:39 · 12 answers · asked by sarah_gotdance 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's made it pretty clear that he doesn't feel the same way you do. I'm sorry. I know it hurts when our feelings aren't returned. Don't IM him. Don't call him. Don't contact him in any way. Just give yourself time to heal and move on.
2006-09-29 06:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think you should just leave him alone, go on with your life I know its hard and I know how you are feeling now, cause I have been though it before. But yeah he sent you a text back but in a way that was a really iggnornt text that he sent you, he pretty much stated that he doesnt want to talk to you or else he would have said something else, like whats up? or how are you? you know something to show you that he wants to be your friend still. I know as hard as its gonna be but you can do better then him and find your self a good grown guy that will love you and want to be with you. Just look at it this way things happen for a reason and if its ment to be it will come back but dont waste your life waiting for it. So go ahead and move on go out have fun enjoy your self cause you know he isnt sittin at home upset and not doing anything like us girls do. Good luck girl and i'm sorry about that, but it happens he just wasnt the one for you right now. But he sounds like he is a jerk for not caring about how you feel, forget him move on!
2006-09-29 14:13:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send him one. I can tell that you really want too. If he means that much to you, send him an IM. As long as you dont' get psychotic about talking to him, then everything should be okay. Eventually you'll get where you won't talk to him as much. My ex and i went out for a year, and didn't talk for 3 months. Then i texted him one night, and we talked for like forever. Now we've been broken up for a year, and we still talk every once in a while. He's a jerk sometimes tho...lol.
2006-09-29 13:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by nikkicomstock_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't confuse you feelings with loneliness or fear. Sometimes we don't want to be alone. So we are so easy to take the ex back. Just be careful, and give YOURSELF some time to get over him. I still want to call my ex even after 2 1/2 years but it is getting better with time.
My ex wanted to get back with me just 5 months ago, but I said no. You have to think about why you broke up in the first place.
Give yourself a chance to get over to him to make sure you really do want him back or are you scared to be alone.
Let him come to you....
2006-09-29 13:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by t j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss you spoke from your heart to him if he cant realize that, or know how he truly feels about you by now then he is not worth the time or effort. It may take some time for your heart to heel but you will find someone whos feelings are as strong as yours and he won't even be worth remembering.
2006-09-29 15:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by Cheezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i would wait a little while till you can actually see what his life is going to be like without you, because he will soon miss you and realize what he had. so sorta play hard to get even though you want him more than anything. if you never have a time a way from him he will never know what it is going to be like without you, and he wont have the chance to miss you.
i hope that helped, i am going through sort of the same thing too
good luck
2006-09-29 13:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could send him the IM being not commital and that's OK, but don't expect any changes. He has made his position clear and most guys do not change their mind in this area. If they do the relationship will NEVER be the same, period. Guys think analytically, girls emotionally. There is no emotion involved with this guy.
2006-09-29 13:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so sorry...he might still care about you but that isn't and shouldn't be thought of as love...sounds like he was a nice guy who is trying to be nice you have to let him and get over it...you know or you will go crazy...i mean really if he said he doesn't love you he doesn't...good luck there will be others...
2006-09-29 13:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he has moved on - you need to do the same. Just give it time. It doesn`t seem like it right now I expect but there really are "more fish in the sea" Good luck
2006-09-29 13:50:42 · answer #9 · answered by flicflac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes the best thing to do is to let him go altogether. it sounds like he doesn't want to be friends with you. it's hard to be friends after a breakup.
2006-09-29 13:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by Ruth R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋