Because your boyfriend or husband is abusive, whether it be verbal or not, or both, why do you stay with them? Is it because you love them? You're scared, or you just dont want to be alone, and you feel like he's the only one for you? Just curious...cuz im in a situation where i need this answer! Thank you for your answers...and plz, no rude comments!
2006-09-29 06:42:39 · 5 answers · asked by nikkicomstock_69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If a man chokes you, is that still abuse?
2006-09-29 06:59:49 · update #1
I stayed with my ex husband after he was abusive because I thought I was being a good wife. I didnt just want to give up. We had gone through a lot together and I felt like I needed him and he needed me. I was weak because we had been through alot, and I couldnt see being with anyone else and I was selfish because I didnt want him to be with anyone else. The abuse messed my head up so much that its still hard to shake two years later. Physical, mental, and verbal. It wasnt about being alone it was about not being with him. And of course I loved him and I tried to only see the good and not the ugly side.
2006-09-29 06:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just didn't want to be a "quitter" plus I had never been alone in my life. You probably stay for all of the reasons mentioned in your question. I think you will finally get to the point, like I did, & realize that you don't want to live like that for the rest of your life.
I promise you once you get out of that relationship things will look so much brighter. You just have to learn that you are worthy of being happy. Usually part of the verbal abuse is him telling you that you are no good etc. & that deflates your self esteem which is exactly what he wants to do. There are god men out there, I just happened to pick a bad one. There is hope tho!! Good Luck!
2006-09-29 14:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by Txfroggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love doesn't have to hurt and if he really loved you he would not be abusing you in any way shape or form, get out while you can the fact that you are looking for advice is enough to say you realize there is a problem and that you need some support on your decision, seek the assistant of a close friend or family member who can assist you in making the transition to get out of there and getting your life back.....
2006-09-29 13:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you are looking for reasons to stay. None of them are good enough to stay with a man who hurts you in any way.
2006-09-29 13:45:21 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
money
2006-09-29 13:45:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋