How do I save a woman from a abusive husband?

Answer 1

You can't...some women are just never to return to normal lives after an abused marriage from her Husband. They end up traumatized to stay and take more beatings and if you pull her away, she goes running back.

Answer 2

A few details would have been helpful but the answer would be the same: You can't. You can get her the telephone numbers and possibly a brochure, etc. for Domestic Violence intervention. If there is a child involved you can and must see to it that the child is in a safe place if the mother won't take the child and go to a shelter or with a relative. Typically, the mother will not make a move to change out of fear and out of a different definition of love, inflicted by the husband. Do not take her into your home where the husband may turn his anger on you and your family. The fact is, this is such a big problem that the government, private agencies and all churches/synagogues, etc. are equipped to intervene at no cost to the mother. She MUST make a move if she has a child or risk losing the child to CPS. Thank you for caring.

Answer 3

You can't. She has to be willing to save herself. If she isnt, she'll just go back after you've swooped in and done the saving. A lot of women go through this, and they either want to do something about it or they don't. A lot of times after an incident the abuser will be really nice and apologize and things will be good for a little while. Some women actually trigger these "incidents" to get to the apologetic "I'm sorry and I love you and I wont do it again" stage faster. It's a vicious cycle that can only be broken when the victim is truly tired of it and wants it to stop.

Answer 4

Not your job buddy. Let me tell you what'll probably happen. Or at least what MAY happen. You get involved....he thinks she's screwing you. Hubby now gets PO'd. Beats or kills the wife....then reloads his 44 caliber Desert Eagle pistol, puts on camoflauge clothing and combat boots. Packs a rucksack with two additional boxes of ammunition, 3 Hostess Ring-Dings, a tin of Red Man chewing tobacco and hops into his pickup truck (the one with the Confederate flag on the front license plate and the rifle rack in the rear window), drives to your place of employ and begins searching the building for you.

Naw....I think you'd better let this run the course. I think perhaps giving her guidance or advice may be fine...as long as she doesn't say to Mr. Neanderthal that you're more of a man than he ever could hope to be. In which case, start again with the scenario.
Don't be a hero.

Answer 5

you can't save a woman from a abusive husband. only the woman can save herself.

Answer 6

Does she want to be saved? Some women stay with it...why? I have no clue. Make an anonymous report to social services, or your local police. Or if there is a womans shelter in your area, you can contact them.

Answer 7

You cant,, woman hate it and love it at the same time,, always see woman in a abusive relationship,, us good and nice guys always loose out it seems

Answer 8

Yeah, I agree with the first dude.

You can't save them. They are drawn to it like a magnet, and what's worse, they will defend him.

Leave it alone. Just be there for her if that's the gig, but don't interfere and try and extricate her from the situation....unless he comes at her with a machete or something insane like that.

Answer 9

abusing husband is like alcohol & drugs
only she can save herself
you can plant the seed in her that she deserve better

Answer 10

first she has to be willing and ready to hear what you have to say....some women who are abused are not ready to leave the environment they are in.....fear, kids, he'll change....etc......... if she is ready....then talk to her, and if needed bring along a counselor or pastor or a clergy member someone who has had experience in dealing with the feelings and emotions that are associated with being abused. Good Luck with this