I am friends with a guy who treats me like his girl. But won't committ. He is faithful to me and has been for 3 years. He says you don't have to have title in order to be in a relationship. We spend all of our time together. I want a committment he wants a friend. What should I do.
2006-09-29 06:12:50 · 19 answers · asked by t j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why don't women?
2006-09-29 06:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't waste your time...he is stalling, for whatever reason he might have.
It is not your prerogative to wonder and keep wondering what is wrong with yourself or anything else that you have no control over.
I suggest you take the hint and get off of this road heading to a dead-end. Regardless of whether or not he is being totally faithful to you...it is obvious that you want a commitment minded person, who does want a relationship with a "title".
If you still want him as a friend, then remain friends, but if you have feelings for him i suggest you just stay away from him for a while...just get to the place he is.
Also, to answer your first question...Men DO commit...and full-force, when they are positive about being with that person!
2006-09-29 06:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him off,why buy the cow if you get the milk for free.The real problem is he doesn't want to marry you.So forcing him into the agreement will not turn out how you want.Marriage requires work and commitment and it sounds as if he may not want to do either.So it would probably fail.Time to either be happy with the current situation or move on and start over.
2006-09-29 06:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gently give him a time frame in which you would like to tie it up. "oh, in 6 months or so I would like to X" (get married, live together, share a household, whatever). Hint like that for a while and see if he bites the hook. If he keeps rejecting the notion, you'll know what to do. You can't demand something like that. Just encourage.
2006-09-29 06:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by Whoa_Phat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he would mind seeing other people and watch his reaction, if he gets mad then he wants u 4 himself BUT if he says he is cool with it then u KNOW U R NOT the only one ,no matter how much time u spend 2gther, and if u KNOW that u deserve better than y stay with him , u just r a sucker 4 punishment, and exclusive is not a title its a right of passage it is respect that u deserve from you partner. good luck.
2006-09-29 06:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by q45dip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't commit because of fear (a 50% divorce rate is a definte possibility) - talk to him about it.
But eventually, my love, if your goals are not aligned - you need to move on.
2006-09-29 06:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new man that wants a matrue committed relationship.
2006-09-29 06:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why buy the cow when the milk is free? Do you know that expression? In other words, 'if' yau'll are having intimate relations, why would he commit? He is getting free stuff.
If you are not have intimate relations, then he isn't in-love with you.
2006-09-29 06:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by Donnalah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are putting him in a tight spot,, he treats you like his girl,, you are together all the time and he is decent to you,, why cant woman live with that,, 3 years,, it sure sounds like ( At least to this man ) that you are his girl,,
2006-09-29 06:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is afraid to commit. He feels that he may miss something if he does.
2006-09-29 06:24:06 · answer #10 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't generalize men because you found one that's scared. Mine commited without any problems....in fact, it was his idea!
2006-09-29 06:25:27 · answer #11 · answered by mcnees79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋