sexual interest??

Question

What is the reason behind losing sexual interest in your spouse
when theirs no one else involved?
Is it loss of love?
Pain and damage that's left scares?
Thanks for your input!!

this has been on going for 6 yrs. now it's to the point where it makes me feel very uncomfortable. I love him but maybe it's time to let him fly and find someone that can give him 100%.

Thank you all for your support!!! Sorry for laying such a big one on you for my first question!!!!

Answer 1

Unfortunately, this is the only question you have asked, so the only information I have to work on is what you have said in this question…

I’m clutching at straws here, but I suspect that your spouse has caused you a lot of pain that has left you emotionally scarred, and as a consequence, you are questioning your love for him, and are no longer interested in being intimate with him.
(If I am off the mark, please edit your question to give more details)

There are many reasons as to why people lose sexual interest in their partner…
If the partner is violent toward you, it is understandable that you wouldn’t feel too affectionate toward him.

A lot of men see ‘sex’ as being a ‘wham bam thank you mam’ quicky type affair, that leaves their partner somewhat ‘dissatisfied’…
Perhaps you and your husband need to discover new ways to add spice back into your relationship… Re-learn the powers of ‘seduction’ and the importance of ‘foreplay’… Make believe it is your first time… Watch a ‘hot’ movie together, and allow your inhibitions to run free…

I’m sorry, but all I can suggest on the information you have provided, is that you and your husband perhaps need to seek counselling !
Mind you, if your husband isn’t interested in trying to make the marriage work, you may need to accept that you are better off away from him !
Good luck !!

Answer 2

Big question, Routine is probably one reason, In order to keep romance alive, you really have to work at it and remember that the person you love is still in that body they own. And some times you have to draw sexuality ouf your self and or the other person.

One way to start is to change your sexual routine and add new pleasure ideas, and be creative in creative romantic mood or situation. If you really love your partner and the feeling is mutual.

Start fresh as if you were dating and explore the world of lingerie, tooy, sex games ect. Iand most of all different settings and places. Keep this in mind most men are visual and most women are emotionale and Oral meaning they want to feel the romance, men want to see sexy. You can rekindle Love if it is dormant.
Always think positive and be a bit naughty you might get what you need.

Answer 3

Yeah I know what you mean.Sometimes when someone hurts you so badly its hard to be sexual anymore even though you have forgiven (but you just have not forgotten).You need to allow him back into your heart, once you do that you can fall in love with him all over again, only be more aware to not let him do the same damage he had done before. Give him at least more of an effort before you let him go. Don't give in to your insecurities about the relationship and allow yourself to be like how you were when you were happy, and first met.

Answer 4

I would have to say it is pain, damage and to add another time. Love is something you grow and nuture. Sexual interest is a feeling. The great thing is to get both in your relationship.
1st it takes a work on both parts to stay fit and healthy
2nd it takes a greater commitment and not giving up on each other
3rd it takes timeing they comuication of one partner to the other the time of day is best and work your schedule for that time

Answer 5

Just b/c your not sexually attracted to your man does not mean you dont love him anymore, it just means maybe you guys have hit a rutt, maybe you need to try to spice things a little. Why dont you try going on a date just the two of you. Get a sitter if needed, and another explanation is it could be a physical prob, and you need to see your dr. Good luck, and hang in there this happens to every couple at some point.

Answer 6

It could be that living together and all has gotten you guys too used to each other. If you're walking around in a bathrobe and towell and no makeup ever then you can't expect passion. Same goes for him-if he never shaves and dresses like a slob how could he turn you on? Maybe you guys just need to spruce things up.

Answer 7

It could be several things. The thing is to find out which one it is and attempt to fix the situation to make it better. It could be over:

looks
extra weight
depression
boredom
need more variety / different positions
schedule too busy makes you tired.

Yes, it could be love, but usually that is because of an episode that occurred. Is there an episode that happened that upset you?

Good luck,

TX Guy

Answer 8

it depends on the age of the people involved, my inlaws still talk about being all over each other even in their late 60's. But i know some young couples that have just lost the feeling for each other, they still get along great, but the sexual side is gone!

it's sad!

Answer 9

Could be many things:
depression
too much work
loss of stimulation/boredom
sexual health
increased anxiety

try to ease his mind,try or renew doing fun things,different positions and locations.suggest a check up to rule out depression and dysfunction.Good Luck!

Answer 10

Just getting bored with him or her. It is the same person every day. You need to find a way to bring the magic back to the relationship.