Do gay people feel guilt for being gay, or is it just normal. Like I bet a prostitutes feels guilt for what she does. I can guess and say yes they feel guilt or else they wouldnt hide it. But the world doesnt really accept it so I cant say thats the only reason why they would it. But do they? Feel Gulit?
Thanks for your answers.
GB
2006-09-29 06:04:15 · 20 answers · asked by derek h 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
no one is ga y by nature. they can only choose to do that, and then they certainly should feel guilty.
2006-09-29 06:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by lanelas 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi GB,
Let me start by saying that in itself, it's a good question. I don't wish I wasn't gay. If I had a choice, I would choose the alternative, for a few reasons. Not being able to have kids is one of them. But I don't have a choice, and I am perfectly comfortable with who I am.
But what the hell does guilt have to do with anything? Why do you bring that up? Why would someone feel guilty?
I don't understand mate. No guilt here. Wouldn't know what about.
Hope the first part of my answer does it for the first part of you question.
Ti
2006-09-29 08:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by Ti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I feel this way, but I think it's because of where I live and how much easier it is to find a heterosexual than homosexual. The guilt never bothered me once I learned how to accept myself for who I was. I think I was more guilt stricken because I wasn't true to those who were closest to me before I came out. It doesn't matter if the world doesn't accept gays as long as we stay true to who we are. I always say the world is better off with diversification to teach people to become more open-minded. People can always hate and have prejudices, it's always been, but laws change and world views change, change is inevitable. It's only easier to be heterosexual in certain communities because it's hard to find a mate. To me the gay bashing I got taught me to be happier for who I am and stronger mentally. It made me want to teach people to be more open, but never made me feel guilt. I say good day.
2006-09-29 06:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by 4me2no&u2findout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, in fact I am grateful that I was born Gay...my entire life has been colored by being Gay. I have most of the attributes we give Gays...taste, finesse, talent, design flare, sensitivity to other's feelings...all these and more have made me very successful in sales, and now my own company. And to your surprise, I have never encountered hostility from Straights. In fact, I have gotten just the opposite. My being Gay has been a great advantage in my life. I have lived on both sides of the fence, have two grown sons, etc. Of the two worlds (I don't find them different) I find the Gay side is more relaxed, less affected, and certainly more open. You are approaching this from a strange place. Why do YOU think I would feel "Guilty?" I have done nothing to you in any respect to make you uncomfortable. IF you are uncomfortable in the presence of Gays, you are limiting your life and career sadly. IN my experience, men who are homophobic to any degree, live a life that is constrained by their opinions of what other people percieve them to be...they feel they cannot be themselves, pursue all that they may dream of, often for fear that they will be percieved as GAY....very sad state of affairs, isn't it? Why would anyone care about sexuality IF they had no intentions of going to bed with any one person. ??? My being Gay, my having money, my being successful, my ANYTHING has nothing to do with you. IF I didn't exist, trust that you would NOT have my money, my business, my friends, my lover, my sons, my ANYTHING! So why would you be concerned that I have it?
I could ask you, Do you feel guilty that you are Straight, that you have negative feelings towards Gays, etc. OR is it normal? In either case, I am not involved in your life to any degree, so why would you have interest in mine...and thinking I should feel guilty for some reason that I don't understand, IS involvement in my life. OPEN up your mind, see things as they really are, and go about life OUTSIDE your confined box of thinking. You will be amazed at what can happen in your life. Good luck and peace
2006-09-29 06:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
derek h,
I hate being Bi. I was brought into that at an early age though. So the anger issues are dealt with, except for the last one. It was out of my control, and now that I am no longer striking at myself for it, I await the time when I will be made new.
If that's not something to look forward to, I don't know what is!
As far as I am concerned, guilt is justified.
Don't think that I'm making judgements about others, I am not. I'm only talking about myself. What others dop with their own identity is up to them. What I'm relating to you is what I've grown to know, and it's been a pretty hard road. But I'm there.
2006-09-29 06:10:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinnk the in ability to make everyone happy and live as a second class citizen could make you not want to be. But you have to ask yourself this question. Is it the lifestyle or the actual act. If you say lifestyle then more than likely it is the pressure surrounding you weather it is family or politcal in nature. You will be fine and you will grow from this. You will be a stronger person and see things from a different stand point. It took me a while cause we have all been there at some point.
2006-09-29 09:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't feel bad about being who I am I just wish the world was more accepting of it. I wish the laws for gays and lesbians were the same of those who are married.
I do choose to keep it from my family because I feel they would not understand, most a redneck republican whom barely started accepting black people. My point of view on this is why break their hearts if I don't need to.
2006-09-29 06:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by Indiana Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I am glad for the way I was born.... I have never felt guilty for the way I was born I had no control over it so why would I feel guilt for someting I have no control over ? Prostitutes have control over their actions... Do you have control over being straight? is it a choice for you? no than this is a silly question... anytime you have a gay question .. turn it around and make it a straight question....
No hard feelings...
but here is how I feel..
if you want acceptance.. you have to first be accepting!
Blessings to you,
RiahWillow
2006-09-29 06:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by RiahWillow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what prostitution has to do with being gay... I believe prostitution are people who sell sex, Right? So I feel sad for you that you are that ignorant.... I'm a Lesbian and I don't for one min ever wish I was anything other than who I am... I'm very happy and loving, giving... Oh and definitely Proud of who I am.... Do you know what that feels like? Being proud of who you are? If, yes than you know how I feel.
2006-09-29 07:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know if it is guilt that I feel. But there are many times that I wished I could just lead a normal life like everyone else. I wish I could have the fairtale life but that just is't who I am and I know I wouldn't be happy.
2006-09-29 06:08:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm not gay but at times i think i'd like to be. I never did see anything wrong with it and it never occured to me that there was anything to be guilty about. Do you feel guilty for trying to understand gays? some people would say that YOU are acting immorally for trying to understand something immoral!
2006-10-01 04:49:25 · answer #11 · answered by same here 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋