My partner and i have been together for three years we live together and have had lot of problems in the past but are finaly over it all. But now we don't sem to be close anymore or talk to each other. He spends all day everyday on the computer while i'm left alone watching tv or what ever. we never laugh and yet he always laughing with family and friends. A couple of nights a week one of us will end up sleeping on the sofa not because we've had an arguement just we'd rather slepp there then come to bed. we never cuddle, kiss or have sex anymore. We're supposed to be getting married next year! But i feel like this relationship has hit a brick wall!
2006-09-29 05:52:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
IHe only works till 11am where as i work till 6.30 or 8pm when i get home i just want to crash or when i do want to go out he doesn't. I've tried to join him in the study when his on the computer and show and intrest but his not interested and most often or not tells me to go away. I get fed up as i do all the house work and yet work twice as long as him and all he does is still on the pc or play on the play station.
2006-09-29 06:07:12 · update #1
Sounds like you've got into a rut,it happens to everyone from time to time,you need to pursue other interests together.
2006-09-29 05:56:12 · answer #1 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Guys are obviously not over what ever happened in the past try talking more about it or even relationship counseling. It does help! But for sure talk and be honest, if one of you is still struggling with the past you need to say that and find a way to work through it together. There's nothing worse than feel alone in a house you share with the one you love.
2006-09-29 06:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by EriksSweetheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Sorry.
Has he another woman keeping him occupied?
Perhaps you are just going through a bad patch!
The best thing you can do is to talk to your partner and ask HIM where his sex drive has gone, why he never talks and laughs etc.
I have known my wife for 10 years and have been married for 7. Even still we have bad times but we also have many more good times to more than compensate the bad times.
It does sound like you are just tolerating each other....this is not the right way to be if you intend to marry. A husband/wife should be your best friend too.
2006-09-29 06:00:16 · answer #3 · answered by PollyPocket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can know if it is over or not. Are you happy far more often than not? Do you think you'd actually be happier on your own than with him? If not, can you see yourself feeling like that again with your current partner? Is there anything you and he can do to make things better again?
Sit down and have a long hard think about it all - the last thing you want to do is find yourself trapped in a marriage you aren't happy in.
2006-09-29 06:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by pomme_blanche_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things continue like so, forget about getting married.
If the relationship is going to develop you will need to spend some time together doing things together. At least once a week, ideally more.
I think it would be best to talk to him and find out how he feels and what he would like to do. If you come to a happy agreement then things might improve, if not, then I think the relationship is over.
2006-09-29 06:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by Brenmore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem like it hit a brick wall. What is his problem? You may need to find out what is wrong because you do not want to marry some one that you do not have anything in common with.
2006-09-29 05:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's he doing on the computer? hang out there with him I mean tv? come on if you want to make it work you need to start remembering why you got together in the first place then make him remember...if your there with him while he's on the computer you might break his habit because that's what happens people get addicted to it just like tv or any other semi-fun easy thing...so take the initiative and be with him weather it feels comfortable or not at first hopefully you will start talking etc again...and no sleeping on the couch bad bad thing to start...
2006-09-29 06:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is sit him down and have a talk with him and ask him what's going on with the relationship. Tell him how you feel and give him time to answer back and listen to what he has to say. You guys should be able to work thing out. All it ask is a good ear to listen and a caring heart to understand.
2006-09-29 06:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you guys need to see a relate councelor. I had the same and i still get times when i cant be bothered talking to my GF. I do wish we had laughs and done lots of cool stuff but there are times i feel like walking away, but i love her and we do try. We saw a coucelor and they helped loads
2006-09-29 05:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by poli_b2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married. You need to have a talk about this with him. Who's refusing who sex? It's probably time for a big honesty session and probably one of you should move out.
2006-09-29 05:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by kyle l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋