iam tired of asking this question again and again........will someone please give an useful answer? i completely adore this guy.i mean iam hopelessly in love with him for the past 2 and a half years. i feel obssesed with him.but,he's already got a girlfriend. i told him that i like him, he said that he likes me too but it would be wrong to dump the other girl for me,and that he doesn't want to hurt her.but he says "i dont wanna hurt u either,i dont know wat to do"........... we just knew each other,not such great friends....why does he care about my feelings? and, i really like him a lot[and,i dont wanna be a *****],what should i do? should i call him up for the last time and give him my new number and ask him to call me when he's single again?or,should i not do it? why or why not?i can't help feeling sad over him,how do i ward off this unhappiness?
please give me some kind and HELPFUL answers.....and,if you are gonna critisise me then get lost,find someone else.
thankz a lot....
2006-09-29 05:46:58 · 10 answers · asked by sad princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can ask the question a million times and the answers will never change. He has a girlfriend that is not you. If he wanted to be with you he would be with you. Get over him and move on. Perhaps if you weren't pining over a man you can't have you would find one that you want and wants you. Don't call him anymore. Have some pride in yourself and don't beg for any man. Be happy.
2006-09-29 06:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you are not getting the answers that you want, but I'll take a crack at it, anyways.
If he wanted you, he'd be with you. It's really that simple. Why, may I ask, are you wasting two and a half years on someone that quite frankly doesn't want you.
Again, it doesn't matter what he's telling you. Actions speak louder then words. The fact is, you are not with him. He is with someone else that he does want.
Sorry for the bluntness....but I hate when I see women do this to themselves.
Oh, I"m sorry....you wanted kind and helpful answers. Maybe honest answers would be more helpful.
2006-09-29 12:55:15 · answer #2 · answered by VW Muse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were nice to him for 2 1/2 yrs there doesnt seem any reason why he should not be nice to you. Hurt your feelings? Youre already hurting by one-sided love. He apparently wasnt interested or ready to move into the relationship/love zone with you, so take the hint and move on. He's not ready to commit to anyone.
2006-09-29 13:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard case. He is not married..... so he is still technically possible for you to be with. But sometimes when u stop focusing on something it happens alot quicker. Maybe you can address it as u guys just being friends until he is ready to commit. It is just harmful on ur own emotional happiness to keep playing this game of thinking about him as a boyfriend. Try to not keep in touch with him or hang at the places u find ur self obsessing over him at.... The truth is he Might not ever leave this girl he is with... so in the meantime continue seeing other people.... this will help u be able to cope with the stress of him with somebody else and possibly for u to get over it.
But sometimes things will work out the way u wanted ......
This sounds sort of like my husband and my store but we were together for two years... loved each other alot.. he went away and I was mad.. I found somebody else... but still loved him.. he found somebody else too.. so over a period of 2 years after we split up we kept in contact with each other but not like talking everyday.. and afte two years we were back together and four years later we are married! so it is possible!!!!..
but it is better to let it happen at God's timing not urs if u force urselves into a relation ship it may not last as long as it would have if u let it happen naturally when he is done with this girl..He may realize he really wants to be with you but it might not be until a year or two later... IF you really want to have an option of being with him ..... You have to keep communication open.. but please try not to revolve your life around this... it will not result in good, Pray about it ... God makes things happen for a reason.. He may be truly ur man but God has to make him experience somethin else possibly to appreciate u more? who knows..
Good luck! I wish u happiness
2006-09-29 12:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by Christal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, he's a great guy and you can't do anything about it. until he's available. you have to deal with the pain for now. do something for yourself; keep yourself occupy; join a gym or some type of activities that keeps your mind off from him. what ever you do, don't stay home alone. your mind will wonder back and the pain will reappear. loving someone from one side would lead to no where. baby girl, go out there and have fun. live life.
2006-09-29 12:57:16 · answer #5 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to ask a question on here, you must be mature enough to realize that you are going to get some criticising. If you can't take it, then don't ask. It is that simple.
To answer your question, find someone that does not already have a girlfriend. That was easy....
2006-09-29 12:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we fall for people who are in relationships already we cant help who we fall in love with he probably does like u both and wants to spare both of your feelings but what if he is stringing u along maybe if he likes u both then he should tell u both i dont think she would like it very much love is very hard at times and if he is out of bounds accept it and mve on i know its hard but time is a great healer and im very sure u will find some one special when your least expecting it there is some one out there for us all my dear good luck
2006-09-29 12:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by ELIZABETH C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please go out and find someone that is available for you. You deserve to be happy and not wait around for someone. If it's right, it will happen in the future. Life is all about timing. The timing is not right at the moment so move on.
2006-09-29 12:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by apriljm76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
helpfull answers? take him-try your best-or GET over it-THATS ONLY 2 CHOICES lil girl-sooner you realize it-sooner all be over or good
2006-09-29 12:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIND SOMEONE WHO IS NOT ATTACHED, YOU ARE OBSESSING OVER SOMETHING YOU CAN'T HAVE, AND THAT IS DANGEROUS BEHAVIOR.
2006-09-29 13:05:52 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋