long story short. I return a call on my husband cell phone. it was a woman, i ask him who the number belong to,. he said a girl he meet a the gas station 2weeks ago, however he didn;t know i kept the number and talked to her the next day, she said they were just friends that meet over a year ago, but they are just friends, that talk on the phone, they never had sex. she didn't know he was married, but knew we lived togather, and had been togather along time. so i told him what she had to say, and ask y he lied, his answer was i didn't want u to think nothing. she was just someone he talked to . can i believe them? I even went to her house, she still swear they were just friends. She said they exchange b-day cards. she had a lot to say that he had told her, but it was all lies, i wasn't the best wife in the world, it's this something i should be mad about and stay, or do i get da hell on?
2006-09-29 05:44:34 · 7 answers · asked by misunderstood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is acting inappropiately regardless of whether he is cheating or not. He should have more respect for you to not do those kinds of things behind your back.
He can't have the best of both worlds. He needs to pick one or the other.
Just my thoughts....
2006-09-29 06:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that sounds weird and obviously he is lying to the both of you. Usually when a man bad mouths his wife to other woman and I mean woman cuz not necessarily he is doing it with all women he meets is because he is looking for something else other than friendship. Other than that, men can also have girl friends and not necessarily be having sex. I have lots of guy friend whom are happily married and we talk on the phone every once in a while, their wives know me , and if they ever talk bad about their wife, then I just tell them if they are not happy to get out. But never will I have or consider having sex with any of my firends.
2006-09-29 12:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have reasons to be suspicious and hurt and angry, due to the lies and the friendship you knew nothing about. He is your husband, and as such, you and only you should be the woman in his life, and his best friend. His friends should be your friends, and vice versa, and there should be no secrets or lies about seeing anyone on the side, of course. It sounds like it is more than friendship, though maybe it isn't ... but it is still wrong. Maybe try marriage counseling, and talk to each other about what is really going on, and how you can improve your marriage all around. Good luck and blessings.
2006-09-29 12:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What men don't realize is when they lie and it catches up with them it makes the situation more unbelievable. I have been there with mines and I explained to him a lie always resurfaces when you think you had it covered. I feel like it he didn't have other things on his agenda he should have no problem telling the truth and to say he wasn't married just living together is dead wrong if it were all innocent I don't believe him but i do believe her. Then some men think we will think something already so they try to hide it. To me that's just like lying!
2006-09-29 12:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what makes you want to stay? If he hasn't physically "cheated" yet he has emotionally distanced himself from your marriage. You both need some serious discussions about your marriage and what you both want. Marriage cousenling would help if you choose to stay.
2006-09-29 12:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by curiouszoey01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you are better off with him or without him. That will give you your answer.
2006-09-29 12:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LYING IS A DEAL BREAKER. CONFIDING IN ANOTHER WOMAN IS A DEAL BREAKER. HE IS HAVING AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR. DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO.
2006-09-29 12:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋