If you had a family member living with and they wouldn't follow the house rules. The only rule I have is not to drink in my house because he makes a mess and is very annoying when he drinks. We have told him over and over again and he still does it. He has nowhere else to go so we can't kick him out.
2006-09-29 05:11:31 · 14 answers · asked by makeup girl 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
If he has nowhere else to go, I would think he'd be a little more interested in following the rules. I would tell him he has 30 days to find another place to live, because although he's your relative and obviously has problems, they aren't your problems, and you don't deserve to have your kindness turn to regret. Offer to help him and be firm about this. He may need professional help you are not qualified to give, and letting him live there with no consequences is harmful to him, although I know it doesn't seem that way. Good luck.
2006-09-29 05:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If no one in your house drinks alcohol and your family member continues, then it is very important, because it sounds like you care well for relations, to find him his own residence. If he has a condition of drinking that inhibits his ability to work, their is disability payments and sustained housing in abstinence programs, etc. Any income he has should be spent on seperate lodgings. There is only tragedy letting an alcoholic live with you because it is not really the mess of the house, but the mass of living with all the gaps in the relationship.. I see a cloudy future with a silver lining. Be Well and best wishes.
2006-09-29 12:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by bluedecker97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a suggestion since I don't know beans about your situation, but it may be the case that he can't stop drinking. In other words, he may be an alcoholic. If that's the deal, putting up with his behavior is only enabling him. Alcoholics, and this is from experience, almost never straighten up their act until they're out of options, i.e., they no longer have a place to live nor anything to eat. And, the faster they run headlong into that reality, the faster they start looking for help. In short, you may not be doing a favor by providing him food and a place that's safe, warm and dry.
2006-09-29 12:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
....Yes, I would not put up with that..Life has rules and he needs to learn that,, any where he goes there will be rules..Let him go see what life is like out there..If he falls on his face because of his ways, that's his problems that's his fault..Not Yours..If he has not giving you this respect already, than he is not going to ..He needs to go and Learn...He also needs to learn he cant treat people this way...He will never Learn this if you don't put your foot down..Do not back down or get soft or that will show him even more that he does not need to respect you...Be firm and strong. but,..I am sorry but you need to leave...he can even go find a shelter..He wont get away with that garbage at a shelter either...
2006-09-29 12:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by *Glowing* *Wings* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why cant you? If he can afford to drink, he can afford to live somewhere else. I would tell him that if he does it again you are going to throw his sorry butt in the street. I hate it when people take advantage of someones good natured help, and that is exactly what he is doing to you.
2006-09-29 12:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONEY, he HAS GOT TO GO. If he doesnt have a place to go that is his problem and he wont get better unless u kick him out. He will have learned life lessons and expierence if you kick him out. Tell him if he disobeys one more time u will kick him out. No go do the right thing.
2006-09-29 12:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you have to cruel to be kind hon, If he has a drink problem then he needs your help and support, but he also needs to want to help himself. If he is a social drinker, then you have to be firm with him and follow through with any ultimatum you give him, otherwise he will play on your sympathy.
2006-09-29 12:19:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lyn I 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now lets see !!! its your house-right-he is not respecting you or your house, its hard yes, but make him leave, did you birth him-no, did you kill his momma-no-did you wreck his car-no-you don't owe this person one thing, you tried, its called using you, please take a stand and respect yourself, do hope there are no young children to see his drinking and no self control, Wish you the best
2006-09-29 12:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think what should you do to help him.
If the drinking is bad, tell him AA or out.
2006-09-29 12:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by linguini11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its a drinking problem, AA or other help, or he has to find someplace else to be a pig and drink, tough love,
2006-09-29 12:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋