came to the realization that what i was doing was very wrong and getting beat o f f by another woman is wrong. my wife has no idea about any of this. would it be bad if i just made the decision to stop doing this and just pretend it never happened and just repent of my old ways? i cant see any benefit whatsoever in telling this to her.
2006-09-29 05:08:04 · 17 answers · asked by mark s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the only benefit you would get from telling her is to remove the burden from yourself and placing it on her. she never needs to know and I wouldnt say a word. zip it-and that is a double entendre.
:-)
I think a massage with a happy ending sounds awesome. i would just want a hot dude to give it to me and I dont think we have anything like that here in midwestern wi.
where do you get 'em??
2006-09-29 05:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by cici 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, you may run the risk of someone else tell her, in case they know. Can you imagine if she knows all the truth by someone else? On the other hand, if you tell her, she may leave you, unless she is a very forgiving and understanding person. How to believe that you will never do it again? I wouldn't!!! Hard to trust someone, once we are betrayed. You should have thought twice before doing this. Why don't you go and see a Priest or a Pastor? Ask God to give you guidance. I am sure if she loves you she will understand, as much as it may hurt. Love that is unconditional lasts forever.
2006-09-29 05:12:58 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Cook 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel that it's going to make everything better than do that but I think you are going there for a reason. Are you sexually frustrated? If you are, you are going to go somewhere else or find other means for sexual gratification. I would find out what the REAL problem is. Hey, email me. Maybe I can help you.
2006-09-29 05:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by dianee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her. It would probably ruin your marriage and if you're truly sorry for it, don't do it again. Make it up to her. Take the money that you were spending on "massages" and take your wife on a fabulous trip.
2006-09-29 05:13:19 · answer #4 · answered by Meg 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she's oblivious to it and she and you have a good relationship....yeah, there is only one benefit...you relieve yourself of your dishonesty and infidelity at the expense of her feelings and possibly your relationship forever. You've really hurt her already, why hurt her more?
Deal with the infidelity with your Maker privately or test her strength by being honest to her. Totally your decision.
2006-09-29 05:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should tell her. You risk your marriage if you do. It's better to leave things as if it never happened. If she doesn't know it won't hurt her. now...............i do not approve what you did. If I was in your wife's place, it would cost you the marriage. I hope you realize what you did, and spend the rest of your life making it up to her.
2006-09-29 05:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by scorpionbeat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are really serious about not doing that anymore, great.
As far as telling your wife, I know I wouldn't want to know if my husband was doing that, but its up to you to tell her.
Be prepared for the consequences though.
Good luck.
2006-09-29 05:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by jenn j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, it's kind of hard to believe that your wife never knew that you go to the spa without finding out ever, maybe you should tell her the truth, instead of hiding it, she's your wife, she has the rights to know. There's going to be one day, you'll slip in your life, so you might as well tell her.
2006-09-29 05:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt tell her. As long as your willing to live with the guilt. She wont benefit from knowing if you really quit.
2006-09-29 05:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by Gabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her and let her find a man who will be faithful to her or tell her and ask for an open marriage, and she can mess around too.
2006-09-29 05:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋