I have a crush on my teacher and I am confused!?

Question

I know...a crush is a a crush...but I am not so sure about this one...??

We get on really well and he likes me very much, I am sure. He sometimes pats me on the shoulder and smiles at me broadly. He's probably in his 25's - 30's.

Other thing I am concerned about is that, is he being so kind to me...is it because he's actually feeling sorry for me????

Cos, I have this cochlear implant...well, a little bit of the hearing disabilty. But, that's not a big problem cos I can hear about 90%.

And I speak well. I do so well in school...and evryone really likes me. I lead, what I would mostly say, a normal life...
But, I am confused now becuase, recently, when I told of my crush to my big sister she told me that it was just because he was feeling sorry for me cos of my hearing disabilty and wants me to work well in class..

Is this true? I am quite uset and annopyed! He should like me because of the way I am..and because I have a such a great personality...

Answer 1

Not really sure how old you are but your feelings aren't unusual. I am sure he does like you, but as a student. I am sure he has interest in your future and in your learning. Nothing more.

Your feelings towards him are normal, he must have many qualities that you admire in a man. You like the fact that he gives you attention and you are flattered.

I don't think that he is giving you attention because you are hearing impaired, I think he may be making sure that you are understanding the assignment. Sounds like he is just a very good teacher, kind and caring towards all his students.

Hope that helps...

Answer 2

Firstly your sister is out of order to say that to you in the first place, Can I recommend you don't go to her for advice again!!!
Secondly, your teacher may or may not like you in "that" way, but never the less you need to make sure that nothing ever happens and try to forget about him. There are no positive outcomes to this. If you do get together, he could be arrested and loose his job, and you would have a stigma around you for a long time, this wouldn't make either of you happy. Or you could tell him how you feel, and he has to let you down.

I'm sure neither is an appealing option for you. The good news is that if it's meant to be, some day when he's in his 30's and your in your 20's you may see each other again, that will be the time for sparks to fly, not now!

Answer 3

Lol, this brings back memories of when i was at school. You have to remember though, teachers are there only to teach you - it's their job. There has to be a line kept between a pupil and teacher, a certain distance. Teachers cannot risk an affair with a pupil for many reasons - it's morally wrong, they will lose their job and will never teach again, they will lose a lot of money (their salary), and may lose their relationship if they're already in one. Also these things tend to end up in newspapers too, causing all sorts of problems. My advice is don't get serious about him. Find someone else and try to forget about him. Just keep it fun. I remember at school fancying lots of the teachers and this went on for years, but nothing ever came of it, it was just good fun. Good luck.

Answer 4

Would you not worry about this situation. The facts are this: He is your teacher and that type of relationship could never be. if it did, people would most likely find out about it. Also, I am sure you are a wonderful person, so to hell with your idiotic sister. He is your teacher. Try and notice, without bias, if he really pays more attention to you or if he is that committed to everyone else as well. If you notice that he really does pay a little more attention to you than when you are alone, ask him if he pays more attention to you because of your disability. You should be able to tell by his response. Good luck. Try not to hook up with your teacher. It would only cause harm to the both of you.

Answer 5

You said it yourself, a crush is a crush. The reality is that regardless of whether his feelings are pity or attraction there could never be a relationship between you. Not because of the age difference, but because it would mean that your teacher would be in a terrible professional position. Becoming a teacher takes dedication and years of training. Lets face it they don't do it for the money!
You sound like a very intelligent person with a lovely personality so please don't take this as patronising but I speak from experience when I say let it go, its a crush.

Answer 6

Your hormones are shot and getting you confused.

I pat lots of girls on the shoulder, and i smile at them. If they are really lucky I say "Hi, hows things ?" I guess you would see that as a marriage proposal.

But I don't give it a second thought, neither do any adults.

You need to get out with your friends and stop the obsession. If you come onto him, he'll be flattered. If he's weak, he'll go for it. Either way you'll be crushed.

At school:
from my viewpoint...I had a crush on Ms Roe, she always looked at me, she'd secretly glance over whenever she could, often she'd make a point of smiling and saying hello just to catch my attention. I'm sure she loved me
From her viewpoint...Why is that pratt of a kid staring at me while I'm trying to do my job and wondering what to cook for dinner.

Answer 7

So you have a crush on your teacher honey...well, welcome to the club, I think most humans in their lifetime have had a crush on someone older, more mature and in a role which plays an important part of one's life. I used to have a crush on at least one teacher a year, or the same one for 2 years in a row etc. One either get over it or, like me, you go and study teaching! There at university I developed a crush on my lecturer...i was beginning to think, is it just me, or does this man have the hots for me too! (i found out along the way he was getting married while i thought he was flirting with me. that flung me into a depression which took years to overcome.
The truth is, crushes are a normal part of life, however, its a "doomed" sort of thing because 1) you're putting your emotions on the line and b) you're putting someone's job on the line.
As a teacher myself, i know that i risk many years of university studies going down the drain if i give in to little boys making dirty remarks or chucking their pencils on the floor to get a better peak up my skirt (i swear, this happened, the kid was a sick little puppy!).
As much as it pains me to admit it, yup, some kids do get crushes on teachers, and some teachers do get crushes on children (i quit my job one year cause i found myself attracted to a boy who was attracted to me - no, he never found out, but i'm sure he guessed, he now lives up the road from me!!! how's that for fate!)
Well, sometimes, if something was meant to be, fate will intervene and give you another chance, like maybe, once you're finished and have left school? Till then, you can only write him an anonymous letter and leave it somewhere on his desk saying that you really fancy him and have a hard time dealing with it, but you dont want him to lose his job so you will let him and yourself get on with life and that perhaps when you've finished school you hope to remain friends)
Give yourself time honey, and try to go out with friends meanwhile to take your mind off things. YOuv'e got your whole life ahead of you, but you MUST remember if its true love, rather than a crush, you will understand that he risks his career, income and reputation (and risks future teaching jobs) if he confesses and goes on to have a relationship with you!! I feel for you, i cried when i quit that school where i fancied one of the pupils, but it was for the greater good!!

Answer 8

You are probably reading more into this ordeal than there most likely is. Realize that your hormones are kicking into high gear, and it is normal to have a crush on a teacher. Chances are that he has no idea of your crush on him, and he is encouraging you as anyone else without regard to your cochlear implant.

Answer 9

Well, first off, brush yourself against him a little when you guys are passing on the hall or something.

A little contact like that will let him know that YOU are interested but it isn't too embarrassing for anybody.

Then, when he is next speaking to you, laugh at what he says and touch his arm or something. Try to be more tactile with him in general. If he doesnt recoil or anything then he is definitely interested.

Finally, just place your hand on top of his. Again, if he doesnt pull away, then there is something between you.

Answer 10

Listen, the teacher wants everyone to do well and he's paid to like you all. Don't think you're special!

I think a lot of this is in your head and you just want to be accepted, as you're obviously insecure about your hearing aid thingie.

One thing's for sure - don't even THINK that this is going anywhere, and certainly don't pursue it!