Men only please?

Question

Why do husbands sleep with a nother woman,,please be stright up.i forgave my husband and we are doing ok..but he never told me why...please tell me ,,maybe i can help in some way..i love my husband very much. thx

Answer 1

It usually isn't a case with liking one woman more than another, but rather, people are attracted to different people, because they are simply different. He could find you to be the most beautiful, intelligent, loving and sexually pleasing person in the world, but at the same time be attracted occasionally to one far less than that to him, or simply any or all of those things, just different.

In other words; a beautiful blonde and a beautiful brunette are both beautiful, just different, and this can be said about any such differences you could think to compare. But there is also another reason a person might cheat, and that is... the additional excitement of doing a no-no and/or possibly getting caught. It's like a stolen cookie tastes sweeter than one that is given to you.

It can also be the result of the fear of losing out on something, if they don't take advantage of it; the fear of loss. It may be a confirmation of his abilities to still have what it takes to attract another. Or it may just be he can do things to them, he isn't allowed to do with you, or wouldn't want to do with you [like wham-bam-thank you mam... gots to go.].

Answer 2

They cheat for a variety of reasons, maybe being married has got lost spontaneity - no matter how much he loves you, there's nothing worse for a good man who works hard at what he does at a job which becomes second nature (no matter how good it is) to come home to a life that is also a little snug in her ways ! If he has to do all the calling, all the texting, make all the first moves to initiate anything, it's no wonder when another lass comes along and actually shows an interest in him - that he feels enamoured !! Get it together lass, don't let it beat you down - it takes two and sometimes you just have to get off your *** and show him why he married you - again - if you are waiting for him to do that for you - you've lost. You see, many men dont associate what you do for the kids or the home as something especially done with him in mind too - personally it would be great if my wife stated she wanted to do me over the sofa at 6pm even with the kids around - it's not the doing that matters - it's the interest you show sexually, how often you touch him, kiss him, hug him. If he feels you are no longer attracted to him or he's coming way down in the main priority list, then his mind and eye will be caught by some lass who does do this! Why is it most women are deep down a little selfish !! they only try to deal with a problem when it arises instead of ensuring it never happens in the first, or don't do things unless a list is met and completed first. Men are not like this, they are simply stupid most of the time and frustratingly simple!! Show him you want him, make him anticipate and he'll never wander, especially if you live up to the expectations you set! Ever thought about calling him at work and taking him to lunch with nothing but a cost and undies on!!!!!! If you are not up for this sort of thing - then forget it you've lost - cause that s what he'll be doing elsewhere! For married men - they did not definitely marry to enter a monastry! so if it's once a week, quick and stuck in between chores or late at night, you need to be "annoying him", start groping when he does nt expect it, when watching telly under a throw, kiss the back of his neck while you wait in a queue, think of all the things a mistress would be doing!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

Every man will not give you the same reason why they cheat.
Every man has a different point of view.
I do not mind telling some of mine, but it would take me all night if I tried.
I was not given the attention at home, and my wife always told me that she can live without it. I am not going to blame everything on my wife, but I am not going to put all the blame on me either, if you know what I mean.
I have cheated and my wife has cheated before.
I love sex and she does not like it that much. I get on the computer at home and she gets on CNN and other news station.
I like dancing, going out in the public, and she does not care for that. I have recommended counsel ling and she says that I need it not her. She and I have differences with the house. I like inviting friends over, and she does not care for anyone visiting.
See how much difference there is? Do not get me wrong, I have not been perfect myself, and I still wonder about who I will see next.
I do not know if I answered your question, but you can email me if you have questions.

Answer 4

I think that is great that you have forgiven him. But the reasons could be very clouded. If its a stupid mistake because of wrong place wrong time thing. Or is it more of a emotional affair then the affair could be just the tip of the iceberg of serious other problems with the relationship. What helped me was doing a time-line of the relationship and look within myself with a honest eye versus placing blame or either party. My relationship was dead long before the affair. I was not proud of having the affair and reasons for it is too long to list here. Good luck to both of you.

Answer 5

Well I can't speak for your husband or any other man in fact. But sexual gratification doesn't necessary have to be emotional for a man. It's often just a physical act of lust. Granted it is better with someone you are linked with emotionally or love but it's not necessarily a must.

This might sound weird but often it's not personal or meant to hurt you. You may be great in bed and satisfy him in every way but it's about pulling off a strange peice of tail.

I've never cheated but I do date and I like the variety.

Just my thoughts.....

Answer 6

sometimes its for the thrill sometimes it a lacking, like aggressive sex or rough sex alot of times we as men dont want 2 treat our wives like porn stars because of the respect we have for the mother of our children,we ALL have that want 2 be a beast in the bedroom ALL dont let anyone other than priests tell u otherwise, we have an ego and sometimes women dont stroke it, so other women will its not cuz we dont love u, its because we like that thrill of the NEW feeling getting away with treating someone real NASTY ,lol ( because we love u that we do what we do , sounds almost impossible 2 believe but very true.)

Answer 7

Its not about you, its about the unknown the discovery, I think it goes back to primitive man and the need or instinct to survive more of an animal attraction. You may want to think about mate swapping with another couple. It will put some variety in your sex life. It also keeps the passion alive for you and your mate.

Answer 8

Talk with your husband first. Maybe there is something missing in you love life that he found other places. It might be he feels trapped in the same rut and just needs something different, something you can do once you find out what it is he likes.Good luck.

Answer 9

It's the testosterone - the lure of strange stuff. Many times, the wife is much prettier than the woman that he has an affair with.

Answer 10

Either she was really attracted to him and he caved in to temptation, or you're not attractive to him and he went looking elsewhere. You would know which is which. If it's the 2nd problem, he probably won't tell you straight up, but that's something you can solve by yourself. Shape up, act sexy, dress sexy, become his sex slave. If it's the first problem, do the same thing to keep him from being as tempted.