2006-09-29 04:51:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
While 10 years is a long time, why make it longer if there is no possibility for change? If you have gone through counseling, but find yourselves irreconcilable, go on with your life. Yes, you will feel rudderless for a while, but why stay with a sinking ship?
You will have to redefine yourself after the loss of this relationship, but you will face this type of change many times in life; such as after children grow up or after the loss of loved ones.
There is pain and sorrow in this, but there is an opportunity to go on that can be exciting.
You will have a chance to do things now that you could not do out of consideration for your partner. If they are healthy, do them!
Be generous with dividing property. That is just things. The longer you haggle and grouse about it, the longer it will take you to move on.
People are more difficult. I say, if there is any division of friends, let them do it themselves. The ones that stick by you were your real friends all along. Hopefully, they will be friends to both of you and not bring you goings on of your lost partner or vise versa.
Move on with your life, it is short. Life is about change. Those who don't adapt grow stagnant. Keep moving!
Good luck.
2006-09-29 05:12:14 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 19:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 00:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by crompton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While your packing up spend your time thinking of all of the reasons that your in this position. Remember all of the reasons that your heart feels the way it does and think of the relief you will feel once its over.
Leaving is hard, but moving on will be easy once you get out the door.
Make a list of all of the good in your relationship and another of all of the reasons you want out.........this should make the move much easier.
Think of yourself for a nice change.
Good Luck!
2006-09-29 05:52:17 · answer #4 · answered by midlifemommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a clean break. If it's been 10 years then it's been draggin out too long as it is. Just walk away from it and take some time alone to heal. Don't try to stay friends, don't have any contact, at least not for awhile.
2006-09-29 04:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter and leave. If it is going to hard to do it in person, do it this way. Wait awhile and then talk in person. Give the other time to get mad, cry and get over it. Then talk. But if you can't do that and feel good about it, you will HAVE to tell the other person that you are unhappy. Don't waste any time.
2006-09-29 04:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by lucy p 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No one deserves to be walked out on, so to me, sitting down face to face is the only way to go. Maybe your partner feels the same way. Being honest is important. Both of you invested in this relationship so don't you think you owe it to your partner honesty and compassion? Lots of luck to you
2006-09-29 05:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, talk to the other person and let them know how you fee, that way you take care of the closer part. Then enjoy the rest of your life and pray they do the same.
2006-09-29 04:54:56 · answer #8 · answered by jenn j 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be strong and do what you would love to do in those years and then you never had time. I know its very hard but you can do it by thinking positive. At least you don't have to deal with them any more.
2006-09-29 04:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find another job, give your current boss 2 weeks notice, and leave.
2006-09-29 05:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋