My bf have being drinking alcohol all this week,how can i help him,because when he drinks he comes very violent towards me,i love him and we do have kids.
2006-09-29 04:50:02 · 18 answers · asked by hope 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to him when he's sober and tell him how you feel when he drinks. If his drinking is a habit then ask him to seek treatment (AA or something like that). If he doesn't see the problem then pack up and get yourself and your kids outta there. It's a bad enviroment for you children to grow up in and apperently it's unsafe for you as well. Good Luck.
2006-09-29 04:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through the same thing. I've tried talking to him he's went to counseling and even jail and he still drinks. When he does I leave him alone and me and my daughter's either go to a family members house or friends just leave him alone when he is drinking because if you argue about it it gets worse. It's up to him to stop the drinking no matter how much you tell him it's not good he won't listen to you. I'm sorry you are going through this I have been dealing with this for over 13 years with him. And it's awful to be with someone who drinks and acts that way. Good Luck... And make sure your kids are safe.
2006-09-29 05:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by No way! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Find out what's going on. Maybe an intervention would be helpful? Make sure you & child are safe. I've had 2 fractured hips, fractured ribs & concussions from being in a violent relationship. Thay eventually take it out on the kids. I'll never forget the police phone call at work that my innocent children had been beaten by their father.
2006-09-29 04:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the kids and leave, don't put yourself in a dangerous situation. Tell him to quit drinking or this arrangement will be permanent.
2006-09-29 04:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by cramcram62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be there for him however he must be the one that decides to change . If he gets too violent you need to get out of the situation stay with a relative ,you don't want to expose your children to this kind of atmosphere.
2006-09-29 05:02:22 · answer #5 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he drinks and is abusive you need to get out of the relationship. It is not healthy for you nor your kids
2006-09-29 04:53:55 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can help him but himself ...He has to want to get help.. Your suggestions will only make things worse for you and your kids ...You cant give him an ultimatum either.. The only thing you can do is tell him your leaving and if he loves you as much as you love him he will get off the booze.
2006-09-29 04:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by HarleyMama43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down with him and say, This drinking is causing me to breakdown. Do you want this to end???? Think about the kids, me, and of course you!
2006-09-29 04:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by Julie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him is this the way you lioke for our kids to see you drink ask him does he want them to grow up and be the way he is if not then get help and let him know that you love him that him know that it is hurting you and the kids
2006-09-29 05:03:26 · answer #9 · answered by smylegrl27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave him it is very damaging to your kids believe me i come from parents or parent who is an alcoholic and i wish my mom would have shielded me from the **** i had to witness and it is very damaging!! just leave him until he gets his shi t together think of your kids not of yourself!!
2006-09-29 04:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋