my wife works at the bowling alley (5 min walk home) and tonight i fell asleep at 1010 when i was suppose to pick her up at 1100pm. well lately ive only been getting less then 6 hours of sleep, which is not enough for me. when that happens you cant wake me up with the first 2 hours of falling asleep. i set 2 alarms to wake me, it didnt work, my wife called me twice on my cell and twice on our home phone, still didnt wake up. she is absolutely pissed at me now, wont even look at me. this has happened twice before this night. its not like i intentionally did this but she doesnt understand. anyways whats your point of view about this? dont bother saying a smart as* remark i will remove it.
2006-09-29 04:43:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dont drink and no meds, she knows im a deep sleeper. i dont even hear our infant when she cries at night. i think my wife just gets too mad way too easily
2006-09-29 04:49:43 · update #1
she doesnt have a license to drive and its on a military base.
2006-09-29 04:50:46 · update #2
If you are not taking medications or drinking , then you need to go to a sleep apnea center and let them track your sleep.....this will prove to her that you can't wake up. Are you a natural deep sleeper or a light sleeper? Is this a new symptom? Have you gained alot of weight? How old are you? These things matter.
Go to the doctor and save your marriage.
2006-09-29 04:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by lucy p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Society has programmed women by now to be afraid for their safety walking around outside at night. Really afraid. It is obviously important to her that you are around during that time of night. I live in a very safe little town, but I can still find the list of folks in town who have been accused of sexual crimes or crimes against children and there are quite a few of them surprisingly. In this day and age, you can not take your safety too seriously.
If you are not sleeping well at night, and this is what is causing this problem with your wife, maybe you need to look into that from a health perspective. That kind of sound sleeping can kill you in a fire or have your loved ones hurt if an intruder would come into the house in the night, etc. There are all sorts of natural things that you can take on a night when you have the time to sleep longer than 6 hours (or after your wife gets home safely) - that in itself might solve your family problems. If I was you, I would seek advice from a trusted health professional.
Peace!
2006-09-29 04:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice, call the florist buddy! Since this is not a first offense... maybe some chocolates too.
You made an agreement with your wife. While it is understandable that you are tired... I am guessing she probably is too. She got off work and you were supposed to pick her up.
If she got off at 7 or 8 or so, then sure, tell her you need some sleep. But it's not fair to keep her waiting at that time of night, when you made an agreement. Plain and simple.
I am sure you didn't mean to fall asleep on her, but you did. You can make excuses and rationalize it, but this won't get you out of the dog house. It sounds to me like you need to apologize (LIKE YOU MEAN IT) and then work out a better system with her, so this won't happen again. Maybe see if someone else can take her home, let her have the car, get her a bike. But come up with a better solution so this doesn't happen again.
Oh - and you don't wake up for the baby? Who wakes up with the baby then? Her? Sorry buddy you don't have a leg to stand on here. :(
2006-09-29 04:53:36 · answer #3 · answered by Willalee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand her frustration with having to walk home after work but hey it's a 5 minute walk. I would think that it would relax her after an evening at work. As far as the safety issue of a woman walking alone that time of evening-- you are on a military base. Aren't they usually pretty safe? If it's only 5 minutes is there not someone who can drop her off on the nights when you aren't there??? Could it be that she is upset about something else and using this situation instead of addressing the real one???
2006-09-29 05:08:04 · answer #4 · answered by busy_mom_2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honest see it from both points of view. I don't condemn you for falling asleep, that happens sometimes. Although I wouldn't blow it out of proportion, I can understand why she maybe alittle upset. Although you make say its just five minutes walking distance, its alot of crazy people out there and she may find it uncomfortable, even frightening to be walking alone at 11pm. It only takes a couple of seconds for something to go incredibly wrong. Why don't you come to some kind of compromise. If you only have one car, and its only a five minute walk, drop the car off with her and you walk home, or perhaps look into buying another car. Good luck.
2006-09-29 05:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make arrangments for someone trusted to pick your wife up after work. It's not safe for her to be walking alone after dark. How would you feel if she didn't return home from work and the authorities knocked on your door to inform you her body has been found? Never say that will never happen, crazies are running all over in the world just waiting for someone to be there at the right time.
2006-09-29 05:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I can suggest is to get to bed earlier if that is possible. Why are you up so late? A DVR or VCR to record any TV programs you want to watch at night will help.
As for the wife she should be a little more understanding. If she is uncomfortable walking home I suggest a taxi to get home; a few dollars ought to be worth marital bliss. You clearly to need more sleep and she needs to understand this.
If you are having trouble getting to sleep you may want to see a doctor about it.
2006-09-29 04:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by my_iq_135 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't your wife drive herself to work??
You say it is a 5 min walk, but it is not safe for her to walk at 10 pm. It is a crazy world. "They" say women should not go to the grocery store at night.
If you are at work when she goes to work, and you only have one car -- why dont' you drive to her work, drop off the car, and you walk home the 5 min walk. Then she can drive herself home and you can go to bed earlier.
As for the fact that you forgot her for the 3rd time. Well, i can understand her being aggravated. No woman wants to feel forgotten, unimportant, etc. Even if you were tired.......I can imagine what this says to her about her importance to her.
Think about her, what does she like, what is meaningful to her? Talk to her, tell her what you did is inexcusable and you know it....and then make some changes.....like maybe the car swap. Her safety should be a priority to you.
2006-09-29 04:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get off of work... drop the car off at the bowling alley and take the five minute walk home... It's good exercise... This will allow you to get to bed early and get a full nights sleep and your wife will have a way home... end of problem...
2006-09-29 04:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is only a 5 min walk, when you start getting tired drop the car off to her and walk home. It isn't safe or smart for her to be walking home after dark like that.
This way she won't be pissed at you and you can get to bed earlier!
2006-09-29 04:48:42 · answer #10 · answered by princessPixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋