I was seeing this guy. We're both married - to different people. I've changed. I decided to stop seeing him 6 months ago, but he still keeps calling me. Not often - maybe once a week. He say's he just wants to know how I am. I keep telling him that I'm okay and that he does not have to worry about me. Another wierd thing is he keeps asking me out "as a friend" just to have lunch and say he's going to call, but does not call at all. Not that this is a bad thing. It is completely okay for me not for him to call. I just dont know what he wants from me. He says he still likes me and stuff and then when he says he wants to go out, he does not follow through with it. Also, whenever he asks me out I just say yes, but I've stood him up a lot of times and that's what I keep doing. But why does he keep calling me - he knows this is not going anywhere?
2006-09-29 04:37:46 · 13 answers · asked by dazed and confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's testing you out. And he doesn't really know that its not going anywhere because you keep sending signals that its not completely over. He would know that you were completely done with him if 1) you stopped answering his phone calls 2) changed your number or 3) decline every time that he asks you out. With you saying yes to seeing him (even if you stand him up) there is still room for you to say yes and actually meet him (maybe one day when your husband pisses you off or you just haven't been feeling appreciated by your husband in a while) To him it happened once (well o.k. maybe a couple of times) it can happen again. If you want him to stop calling stop answering his calls, he'll get it or change your number!
2006-09-29 04:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♪ TrickNice ♪♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because my dear...we all hold out for that small inkling of hope that the relationship will start up again. Either that or a meeting or two for casual sex. After all...you both were discreet. That is no doubt a plus (for him) and who knows? Assuming you were good in bed I'm sure that has a lot to do with it too. I don't think you'll find any better answers than this.
Why delve deep into it? It's a sexual thing and perhaps alittle attraction throw in for good measure.
2006-09-29 04:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to think about him because then he's a stud that you're thinking about.
The more you think about him the more you care.
When he flakes on you then you might even worry about him.
"He knows this is not going anywhere"
Maybe, but that doesn't mean he can't try and have a good time until it ends.
You are there to make his ego feel better because life with his wife is full of responsibilities and obligations and you are his secret play thing. The sad thing is his wife used to be his playing thing when they were first dating. He just wants it quick and easy and is to lazy to work at his marriage and most likely any relationship.
2006-09-29 06:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right in breaking it off before anything could happen. You are happily married and thats the important thing. Stop communicating with him. Dont answer his phone calls.. in the end, he will realize that you dont want any contact with him and he will give up.
2006-09-29 05:28:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is hopeful of the relationship continuing, and his "just as friends" is a ploy to get with you, in hopes that, once together, you will decide to try it at least one more time. If you keep talking to him and agreeing to go out with him, you are only leading him on, even if you stand him up. And he stands you up, probably as much out of revenge for you doing so to him, as it is, "Why bother, it's not going to happen anyway.", but... he's still hopeful.
2006-09-29 04:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by eric l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably wants what he knows now that he can't have. I'm glad that you've changed and stopped seeing this man since you are married! :) Kudos to you!
Tell him to stop, and to not call you anymore. He probably won't stop until he hears, " I don't want to talk to you anymore, I would appreciate if you would not call me" If he does want the best for you, he'd understand!
Good luck! Hope this helps
2006-09-29 04:43:07 · answer #6 · answered by marypaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to know if you are still interested in him. And every time you talk to him he gets his answer. You are and you have to admit you do like the attention if not you wouldn't take his calls. You need to make up your mind what it is you really want to do and do it.
2006-09-29 04:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by robert d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you need to know is that you ended it and that was the smartest thing you could have done. Break off all contact with him, do whatever it takes so he doesn't have your number. Soemthing's not right with his mind.
2006-09-29 04:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to have sex with you non stop all night
2006-09-29 05:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by davidiscool@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont answer his calls save your marriage.
2006-09-29 04:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋