I am pregnant, I didn't expect that! I have 2 months now, but I feel lost cause my "ex" boyfriend ran away as soon as he knew I am keeping my baby, he was so mad at me, but is not just my fault, so I told him that I won't need him at all, but I found out he is dating someone else already, I can't believe that! what should I do?
2006-09-29 04:37:22 · 28 answers · asked by me at yahoo 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I went through pretty much the same thing with my child's father. It felt like I was never going to get over the fact that he could be so callous and uncaring for something that he helped create even if it was an accident. My due date was August 10th and he left for basic training on the 9th (he bragged to his friends about the fact that he pick that date just to hurt me). Asher was over a year old when he met his father for the first time and I almost feel sorry for his dad because he has missed out on so much. The bond a mother has with her child is so much more than anything you can have anyone else especially some a@#hole that is to immature to step up and be a man. It will get better and you will eventually meet someone that loves you and your child and then you won't even remember what it was you saw in the jerk.
Congratulations on your pregnancy and good luck!
I saw someone above me told you to get him on the birth certificate but my lawyer told me not to because of custody and other reasons. So you should talk to someone before you put his name on anything legal it could come back to bite you in the end.
2006-09-29 04:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by autumn_hendrix 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all forget the loser he doesnt deserve you or your baby, i know its hard im going through a similar situation but what i can tell you is even if you are pregnant with his baby keep your head up you are right you dont need him but make sure you put the jerk on child support because is not fair for you to take all the responsability, so be strong and try not to stress it because that is gonna affect your baby. Think about it this way why do you want a man like that with you? obviously he didnt care about you and you deserve so much better so just be strong and think about your baby, and move on honey that is the best thing you can do. Good luck!!!
2006-09-29 11:51:54 · answer #2 · answered by its_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you cannot control you child's father behavior and you must be strong and move on. your number one priority since you decided to keep the baby is the baby. I know you may need some time to get over him, but don't let it consume you. To be honest he probably was seeing this person all along and used this as a out. I will say that you need to make sure that you are seeking child support from the father as this is the least he can do for you and the baby.
2006-09-29 11:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by PYT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the only thing you can do...what you feel in your heart. If he is already with someone else, then assuming he said I love you...doesn't mean much right now does it. It should wake you up to the fact (not to be mean) you are too young to have sex and not mature enough to handle the consequenses...especially if you are more worried about the dead beat father of your baby than the baby and yourself itself. I would put his name on the birthcertificate and go to the child support enforcement office and make him pay child support. It is not just your fault and I praise you for wanting to keep the baby...either for yourself or giving it up for adoption...there are sooo many mothers out there who can't have children. As for him...I would look out for yourself and your baby and not even worry about him.
2006-09-29 11:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, you don't need to cry over a man like that. Chances are if he is that immature he would have hurt you some other way eventually. Try to put him out of your mind and enjoy your pregnancy. No matter how it came about, this baby deserves all of your love and attention. I think if you really concentrate on taking care of yourself and making room in your life for your child, you will feel that you are strong enough to get through all of this. And hopefully someday you will find a man who will love AND respect you and your child. Good luck!
2006-09-29 15:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by redzodd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prove he is the father if he now decides to deny it. Which it sounds as though he is capable of. Tell the world and hit him for as much child support as the courts will allow. And do a lot better choosing in boyfriends in the future and have a lot more self control. This can happen again if you do not control the situation. If you can't control them think about a permanent fix for yourself unless you want repeats of the situations that you now find yourself in.
2006-09-29 11:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by Cars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want to do??? The only right choice is to move on you don't need anybody in your life that is going to treat you that way. And good for you keep the baby there is lot of help out there for you believe me, you don't need a dead beat man controlling your every move. good luck and congrats on the baby
2006-09-29 11:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, if he ran out on you then maybe you should have taken better precautions to avoid the pregnancy. Who cares if he is dating someone else. That is not your business. NOW your main concern is the baby. Start getting the paperwork together for child support!
2006-09-29 11:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by DO IT! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the baby if you want. File a paternity suit against him and have him pay for child support. You can't do anything about him seeing someone else, so it isn't worth getting mad at him about that.
2006-09-29 11:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by Zephyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your baby... that baby is not responsible of any of this.... don't worry about your ex-boyfriend he proved he is not a men.... as soon as the baby is born... go to a child support agency he still have to be responsible for that baby,....
Even if you are not married to him... he still is your baby's father, he still has to support your baby.... you are not alone.. i know you'll be a great mom....
God has blessed you with a baby... I"m sure he will put somebody more responsable in your life... to help you...
2006-09-29 11:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by perinsesu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋