Ive been with my boyfriend for almost 6 years now and we have 2 children together and i love him with all my heart.Is it wrong if I ask him to marry me and how should I ask him?
2006-09-29 04:35:09 · 17 answers · asked by Dee T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There may be a reason he never asked you. Be careful here.
2006-09-29 04:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got news for you dear. After living with a man for 6 years, & having 2 children together. YOU ARE MARRIED! It's called COMMON LAW. If you have shared your incomes, bought property together with your shared incomes, shared rental or mortgage payments, & utilities then you guys are in as deep as you would be if you had taken marriage vows. The only thing that is missing commitment wise is a short walk down the aisle.
If you two were to end your relationship today it would be actually more complicated to untangle than if you were legally married. You would still have to work out custody of the children, & division of the community property just like in a divorce, but without the benefit of the laws that are applied to legal marriage.
So if he thinks he's ducking a bullet by not asking you to marry him, then he's going to find out that he's floating across a mine field.
I don't think you are wrong to ask him to marry you. He probably has become complaicent about your relationship, & thinks that you are completely OK with the status quo as well. So you are right to speak up.
How should you ask him? Just tell him what you want.
2006-09-29 04:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally think the Question can be asked by either male or female. However marriage is a piece of paper and does not make the relationship work. I went with my Ex-husband for 3years, then we got married and he started to change the rules we set. No more doing certian things, dictatorship of dos' & don'ts'. We were divorced 9 monthes later.
Now in a relationship for over 9 years & still going strong, marriage is not a priority, LOVE is.
I suggest disscuss it, but do not push it, should the answer be NO! Will a piece of paper mean more then what you already have?
Roberta T
2006-09-29 04:54:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 04:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong, but I think you need to know why he has never asked you. He probably gets all he needs from you without having to formally commit. This lack of formal commitment probably gives him the sense of freedom. If he really loves you I wouldn't have thought there would be an issue. However if you ask, and this was something he has been avoiding, he will get very uncomfortable.
2006-09-29 04:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on what vibes you get from him when the subject is brought up in mere conversation, you know, like amongst friends, family, etc... what do you think he'll react like? Only you know your guy so it's up to you to make that call! But do be careful, you don't want them to run away! Ask yourself is he looking forward to marriage, does he anticipate tying the knot with you? I tell you this because I wanted to get married and I went on and told him, but turns out his views aren't the same anymore, but I'm still with him because we love eachother, he believes that if we aren't going anywhere, that a piece of paper won't matter as long as we are good to one another and for one another, I have come to accept that, My personal Motto? "If it aint broke then don't fix it!!!" GOOD LUCK!!! :) I feel the same way Roberta feels!!!
2006-09-29 05:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with a woman asking a man to marry her! but i must ask you a couple of questions that maybe you should consider before you propose marriage to your partner. have you both spoken about this before? and if so, what was his response? is there a reason why he hasn't proposed to you after six years and two children?
2006-09-29 04:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by luvmuzik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't wrong. It's not very common, but it's not wrong at all. However, I do think you should try and get him to ask you. Just be real sweet to him, say you love him often. And when he comes home, stop what your doing and go to him. Give him a fat kiss every time.
2006-09-29 04:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by ~jenn~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, why would it be wrong. It's not usual but it's not 'wrong'. Just bring it up to him. I'm sure you don't have to do the customary on bended knee thing, just tell him you want to be married! Maybe he'll ask you!
2006-09-29 04:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by Pimp E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it wrong for a woman to love a man? Is it wrong for a woman to wish to marry a man? Is it wrong for a woman to share her life with one man? If it is not, then it is not wrong for a woman to ask the man to marry her.
2006-09-29 04:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋