I was taking to a friend of mine and we came upon this topic. Personally, I find that it is cheating, if you are breaking the rules of your relationship. If you find you have to lie or be untruthful or think your partner wouldn't agree... then it's cheating. However, if you have had the talk or you know there wouldn't be a problem - and therefor no reason to hide it... it's really not cheating. My friend said it is 100%. Anyone want to help us out. Who ever has the least answers for their side (between my friend and I) has to but the other a beer.
But please.... answer honestly. :)
2006-09-29 04:31:24 · 19 answers · asked by Willalee 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you hit the nail on the head with what you said about deception. Lying = Cheating. Now with respect to the basic question "are cybersex and cheating the same"? I'd have to say absolutely not. In these days, physical cheating puts your spouse in physical danger (way too many STDs out there), while cybersex obviously doesn't do that. If you go with your friend's argument that, cybersex and physical sex, outside of the relationship are both "cheating" and therefore "the same", then you pretty much have to extend that to fantasizing about or even "Looking" at another person. Cybersex is about what's going on in your brain and so is fantasizing or even ogling.
2006-09-29 04:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I think it is not cheating if it is something the couple both have mutually agreed to (for either of them) and if the definition of what they are going to do is clear. In other words, it is one think for a man or woman to click on some porno site. It is very different to carry on a torrid cyber romance with another real person over an extended period of time. The global Internet is an environment. Any contemporary couple can work together in navigating that world using the compass of their own values. It is only when deception enters the picture that trust goes out the door and the contract is broken.
2006-09-29 11:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bet your life it is!! it is just like calling a phone sex line or having oral sex with someone -- it is ALL Cheating!! It is going against your marriage vows , if even in just your mind- and it is DEFINITELY CHEATING! No IFs ands or buts about it!!( Matthew 5:27,28 ) " 27 “YOU heard that it was said, ‘You must not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to YOU that everyone that keeps on looking at a woman so as to have a passion for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. " Even Just THINKING about having an affair and letting that thought STAY in your mind makes you guilty of adultery. Why would you want to committ such a gross sin against your marriage mate?
Ok, so if you're having problems, get counseling! If your marriage is in trouble , go to your church leader and get some help, but don't go bring another person in to the mix and make it worse. You'll regret it in the end and you'll hate yourself for being weak and a fool as well.
2006-09-29 11:46:47 · answer #3 · answered by AGNES 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women think of it as "cheating". I guess it has the propensity of leading to an actual meeting between parties however if you live in Maine and cyber with a woman in Florida than you may as well be in Egypt I say.
Besides....cyber-sex is like kissing a woman through a pane of glass.
2006-09-29 11:36:52 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it could be considered by some to be cheating.I would say it is if you are sneaking,but then again,how could you tell your partner that you want to have Cybersex with other people,lol?If I found out about it,I wouldnt be mad,unless he was meeting up,or he was like bi or something.But at the same time if it got out of hand,I would be uncomfortable with it,but I wouldnt be like "Oh my God,how could you do this!!?".I would probably just ask why he was so into it,then we would work something out.
2006-09-29 12:37:42 · answer #5 · answered by eternalafricanbeauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-09-29 11:37:13 · answer #6 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the rules are set by the people in the relationship. If a woman tells her husband "No cybersex," or if they haven't talked about it, it's off limits, but if he asks, and she says, "Whatever," then whatever.
2006-09-29 11:34:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything is cheating on the other if the other person doesnt know about it. but if it okay with one person then it not cheating.
2006-09-29 11:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by soll910 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything that you would not do in front of your spouse or partner is considered, in my book anyway, cheating. If you wouldn't do it with them standing by your side then don't do it.
2006-09-29 11:40:04 · answer #9 · answered by NolaDawn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
indulging in a sensual act wit h a person not ur partner is cheating be it phone sex cybersex or real sex
2006-09-29 11:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋