2006-09-29 04:18:04 · 20 answers · asked by bingokell 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Royalty
If you are looking for marriage and commitment, and you are sure you will never get it from this guy, maybe you should think about breaking up and looking for a guy that can give you what you want. I know its hard, but you have to think about yourself. If he really loves you he will realise marriage will make you happy and hopefully will come around to the idea.
2006-09-29 04:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to evaluate the relationship. Not trying to be mean. Ask him why he does not want to get married. It may just be a commitment issue with him. Otherwise, look for other things that are hindering his commitment levels. If he does not want to get married ever, and you are set on it. You may want to look at thing differently and consider your options. It would be hard not to be with someone after that length of time. Yet in the long run you will be better of finding someone that is willing to make the same moves in life that you are.
good luck.
2006-09-29 11:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been together 5 years, surely this is indicative of a healthy relationship? Some people just don't want to marry, simple as that, and it's no show of a lack of commitment, it's just what they believe. If he loves you and you love him, there really is no point in forcing the issue. Just be happy - I know plenty of couples who have been together far longer than you and have never married.
2006-09-29 11:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by nert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be your partner not your husband and beleive me there is a huge difference in living together and being married. I know those who have not married disagree with this quoting a bit of paper etc. Stay single and be partners. Ask yourself what does marriage mean to you. He does not want you to inherit his wealth or pension or have a legitimate right to your children. Marrying is a wonderful experience for grown ups who want it so decide what it is you want and go out there with your mind and heart ready to find someone who loves you as much as you love them and wants it. Good luck.
2006-09-29 11:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by di d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should your "patner" marry you if he is getting what he wants anyway?
Of course, now it may be considerably more difficult for YOU to find someone that values "marriage".
2006-09-29 11:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by kent chatham 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If marriage and the security it brings is so very important to you, and he knows that and refuses to get married, then you have 2 choices - get used to the idea or say goodbye and look for someone who will. Don't play the victim here. It's pointless trying to change him - you can only change yourself.
2006-09-29 11:25:05 · answer #6 · answered by crosbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shave your head, sell all your possessions buy a monkey, learn the words to living on a prayer by bonjovi, and join a christian rock band on tour for a few months. Failing that.... talk to him about it? Would a piece of paper with your signatures on it really make your life that much better?
2006-09-29 11:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by marshfarmpyro 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, I think he should have asked you by now. Or else if you haven't already done so, talk to him about it, ask him why he doesn't want to get married. if he it totally against the idea for no specific reason, then he is not committed enough and you should leave him.
2006-09-29 11:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by dekrgsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him!!!!
If your only young, don't wait around, I was with my daughters father for 18 years, started going out with him when I was 13, therefore, spent my whole life with one person, looking back, it wasn't such a good idea.
If your older, and you want to settle down, move on, don't waste time hanging around anymore.
If you really really deep down in your heart love him, stick with him.
All the best with your decision making.
2006-09-29 11:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by bizzybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment is the language of the wise; complaint is that of fools. Commitment is a responsibility and it includes accountability.
Our weaknesses result in disappointment. To overcome disappointment, boost your strengths. The greatest strength comes from the energy of commitment that brings excellence in all walks of life. Few people traverse the road of success without a puncture or two, but it is commitment to excellence that takes them through.
To be committed is not being ‘stuck’; it is an integration of one’s being. If you are committed to honour your word, the base self in you will discourage you. If your energies are low, you will succumb. If you follow the higher self, the lower self will serve you, slowly getting integrated with the higher. In such a state there will be integrity. Without integrity life is shallow.
You are both actor and thinker. Every time you lie, the thinker warns you that you are lying and the actor asks you to shut up and continue telling lies. It is like riding a chariot with two horses going in two different directions. With commitment, however, you are a person of integrity, and excellence is attainable.
Like an eagle, can we test before we trust?
Eagles lay eggs on a cliff or high peak in nest of grass and thorns. When the eggs hatch, the weight of the eaglets exerts pressure and the thorns start pricking the newborns. Then the female pushes the eaglets out of the nest. As the eaglets nearly fall, the male picks them and places them back in the nest.
Meanwhile, the female removes the upper layer of grass, so that the eaglets rest directly on the thorns that prick them. The eaglets are yet to test their wings. Now the male pushes the eaglets out of the nest. This process continues till such time that the eaglets are able to foresee the danger in falling and start using their wings. Slowly they realise their ability to use their wings and start flying.
Observe the commitment of an eagle reflected in the way it executes family responsibilities and the way it conducts itself while parenting. Bring similar commitment to all walks of life; be it in the family, at work, in society or in your spiritual life. Excellence happens when there is love that helps you to grow and contribute.
Commitment also involves dropping illusions. We do not see the world as it is; we see it projected through our verbose minds. Our minds are filled with thoughts and words. Words represent experiences. Words are also influenced by memory. From the past, we see the present. Hence we create illusions created by words, but we must filter them wisely.
The mind creates dreams. The aware self in you sees reality. Awareness without the ‘I’ is the higher self. The mind with its illusions is the lower self. Have the commitment to operate from the higher self.
Through commitment, balance all walks of your life... family, work, social and spiritual. Creativity is to balance all walks of life. Creativity is just not creating something new always. Creativity brings excellence in one’s life. It is a state of well-being. Well-being creates completion. When one is complete, one is alive and vibrant in all walks of life.
2006-09-29 11:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋