Do u think husband should support his wife?

Question

Isn't it true that a man that can't support his family on adecent level is a loser. I believe a woman has to work too, but at least a husband should be able to provide for the family if the woman can't work for whatever reason???

My ex-husband was trying to brainwash me that it should be 50/50, but I wouldn't agree and that was the major reason we got divorced. I just don't respect man that start a family and are unable to provide for it.

Ans that's true, a woman should be working too, blah, blah, blah... But I strongly believe that a man that can't provide is a big LOSER!!! Man should be making more or at least strive for it.

Answer 1

i believe that the man should be the provider of the family but if a family faces a hardship then there's nothing wrong with the wife helping out as well.

Answer 2

Its not like that anymore. Most families are on a two person income now. Just because a man may make 50K/year, doesn't mean he will be able to by the biggest house on the lot. Is he a loser? A loser is the man who is never home. A loser is a wife who can't live within the means her husband provides. I guarantee my toddler has no idea what I make, yet he has a hard time letting me go to work because he enjoys my company so much. I've been blessed with the love of my wife and my son, am I a loser? There is food on the table every night, clothes on my families back, and a mortgage seems to always get paid. We don't have the biggest house on the block. We don't drive a BMW or a Lexus, am I a loser? What man ever lay on his death bed and said, I should have spent more time at the office." I hope that one day you are able to see the things in this world that are really important. Until the, I couldn't care less if you view me as a loser. You are not rated very high in my book either.

Answer 3

If feel that it should work both ways.. Right now My husband is supporting me only, because I've been very sick.
Once I am back on my feet we'll be supporting each other.
I don't feel if a man or woman is supporting the family the other is a loser. I also have a full time JOB here at home..
Caring for my 2 children and his 4 children when they're here.
Man or woman who is a stay at home parent has a full time time job. Car pool and homework, Going to school and keeping up the house.
This is how I feel.. Sorry if it isn't what your looking for

Answer 4

My ideal situation would be:

Both finish education, then both get a job. If I (want to) get pregnant we will discuss who stays home until the kid is old enough to go to kindergarden or school, most likely me. After that I start work again if I want or decide to be a housewife. If we can that is.

I just think it's best if both work, you get more money to spend or save, you both have something to do with your days and will come home at about the same time.

I don't see the problem if a woman wants to be a housewife if they can afford it. She probably has enough work at home anyway. And as long as she has an education in case they get divorced later, it really isn't a problem.

If a man wants to stay at home I will think he is lazy. It depends. If he can't work or he is the "houseman" then it's OK, but I would worry what he'd be up to all days home alone...

Answer 5

Um, your question is inconsistent. If the husband can provide adequately, then the woman never "has to work too".

And in any case, my answer is "no". I don't believe in "should" statements about relationships in general (i.e. husband "should" support wife/family), because the relationships are between two individuals, and their needs and wants are going to be different. I mean, do you really mean to imply that men who feel the urge to stay home and raise the children are wrong? Or that men who are truly devoted to working for charities and non-profit organizations should give up those satisfying positions for ones that pay better, even if the wife has no problem with pursuing a career of her own and covering the rest of the expenses?

Let people decide for themselves who "should" support whom.

Answer 6

I feel the man should be the primary bread winner,but it is ok for the woman to work,but the man should be able to make a decent living in case a wife cannot work...If his salary is not enough to support you does not mean he,s a loser if he is working every day....He might not be able to support you in the way you want,that is if you are a big spender,if that be the case then maybe you should keep your pocket book in check.I think if a woman wants to work,and plans to work then it don,t matter who makes what.....

Answer 7

It does need to be 50/50, but that doesn't necissarily mean that you each contribute 50% of everything. In my family, I work and make money, my wife does the house work. That's 50/50. Different things work for different people, but neither has the right to just expect the other to provide everything.

Answer 8

No thats not true! I dont know what fantasy world your living in but wake up! It is tough out there, not everyone has an education and a great job that will allow him to support his wife..what about if the man falls sick? what then? Rent is expensive, homes are too, food is going through the roof!

Sorry but not every one has as good as you do.

A marriage is about two people support EACH OTHER, in every way possible.

Answer 9

This is annoying. How is it that women want equal rights and show thier strength but then think a man is supposed to bring home the bacon?? Every situation is different. If its possible that the woman ends up making more money, than why cant he be the one to stay home?
This is no longer the 1950's. You need to catch up.

Answer 10

Depends on circumstances, but yes the man is without a doubt the head of his family and should be primary privider for all, however, if ill or injured the following falls on the wife, after all your considered as one in the eyes of jesus. In other words, one hand washes the other.