A question for the women: Do you like to fight with your boyfriend or husband?

Question

Before you answer the question, think about it. Every now and again, you're gonna do something or say something that no self respecting guy would just put up with. If no matter what you did or said, your guy wouldn't stand up for himself, wouldn't that be a turn off? If so, doens't that mean you like to fight with him?

Answer 1

I assume when you mean 'fight' with him, you mean argue with him?

Of course I would want my other half to stand up for himself if he seriously disagreed with something I said or did.

I think 'liking to fight with him' is a bit too strong, as when you are having these differences you aren't exactly loving it.

I do definetely have more respect for a man for standing up for himself, I do not like a guy who is a pushover.

Answer 2

Sure. Venting a bit of stress and tension, building up passion for a steamy make-up...:-) I think that in a healthy, safe, balanced relationship it's good to stir things up a little now and then. It reminds me of less stable times and all the feelings (good and bad) associated with it. It makes me appreciate what I have more acutely than usual. It fascilitates new conversations and builds ever stronger bonds...surviving things together, big or small, really does make you stonger, I think. It's good to know that someone loves and respects you, that someone will stick with you even if you get under their skin and annoy the hell out of them once in a while, and vice versa, of course. That said - I certainly don't run around trying to pick fights with my boyfriend for no reason, and all the positives that I do see in occasional fighting are a direct result of the fact that we know how to fight (constructively). We don;t try to break each other in any way, we've found out through trial and error how far we can push each other, and there is certainly no question about breaking up over some stupid fight in a relationship in which there is real love and partnership.

Answer 3

No I do not like to fight with my husband. Every once in a great while one of us says something hurtful to the other, but we both know is was just a bad moment to relieve stress. We both have learned to just let it go and we are fine. Of course that does not mean we are not upset it was said to us, just we don't let it cause a major argument.

I must admit, this comes after years of knowing each other
VERY WELL.

I failed to mention, the best thing about an all out argument is the making-up afterwards:)

Answer 4

I don't think that means all women like fighting with their partner. I think it means that we like a man who will stick up for himself.
However I must admit I love a good fight. Unfortunately you tend to fight the hardest with the one's you are the closest to. I think it is because they will still be there when it is all over. It is really nice to unleash sometimes. I find that if me and my husband haven't fought for a long time we will both start "picking" on eachother until it turns into a fight. Then we are fine for a long time again!

Answer 5

I believe that wife should be submissive to her husband's overall leadership.

NOW....that doesn't mean he can walk all over me, and it doesn't mean that he doesn't ask me for my input and use it in determining his decisions. Lots of the time he lets me make decisions.....

Just last night though we got into a fight about some not so important things and yes, I really enjoyed the 'fight' because I felt hurt and so did he. We both picked at each other and then spent a very productive hour talking about our motivations, our hurts, and apologizing for the cutting remarks.

If my husband did not call me on my shortcomings/problems and just dealt with them, yeah, I'd have no respect for him. I have SOO much respect for him because he can work with me and love me with how independent minded I am, inspite of my attempts to submit!

Everyone likes to fight at one point or another....at least in my opinion....so I have to say, that if something a girl does is offensive/a problem...tell them and if they won't see any wrong in it perhaps the relationship isn't meant to go further.....

Answer 6

I don't really like conflict, if it's just destructive and senseless.

But since communication is what makes a relationship vital, argueing simply belongs.
Often it's annoying, but sometimes really interesting.
But I'd rather call the latter a discussion then.

I think I got your point, and yes, I want a man to have opinions and stand up for them.

Answer 7

Sometimes, yeah. My husband is really easy going, I think sometimes to a point where its too much. So I will sometimes push his buttons until he stands up for himself. I like that.

ps- whats with the bizarre "submission" answer?

pps he had a porblem with someone at work awhile ago where he was like "he made fun of me" so I told him to make fun of the guy back. And now the guy likes and respects him. He was like "Wow, being mean worked!"

Answer 8

Just because someone every now and then says something hurtful doesn't mean they like to fight. It means there is something unresolved between the two of them and he should just be a man and she should be a woman. Then there'd be no basis for a fight.

I hate fighting.

Answer 9

Sweetie. What are you asking right here? Is it; might want to women individuals wrestle for his or her husbands or boyfriends? i imagine that's what you recommend,so i'd say, definite,in the journey that they are worth battling for. If a guy treats you with recognize, is continually there for you once you want him, might want to be depended on with your existence, makes you sense brilliant each day and may want to positioned you first (till he has little ones for sure, coz they ought to continually come first), then definite, i'd wrestle for him. yet when he treats you badly, f*** him off without a 2d idea, existence is not elementary adequate without those who're meant to love you making it tougher for you.

Answer 10

i think that some guys let the truth out in an arguement. Not only that but the bottom line to an arguement is this. . .. you should agree to disagree. . . .and if you don't argue than that's not healthy either. there's a fine line between love and hate. . .i think that if you really love someone, you will fight to keep them. . .fighting is through argueing. its healthy in its own little way.