need advise, my teenager daughter has always had good grades. Now, her grades are slipping and I don't know if I should 'ground' her and if so to what extent?
2006-09-29 03:58:40 · 13 answers · asked by misscruz 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Start by talking to her. Find out if it is a boy, bad friends, teasing, her health...etc.
Has anything else changed about her? My suggestion is you observe and communicate. Then, if it is a problem you can fix, like teasing or something physica, help her. If it is something she needs to talk about to figure out, be there for her.
I have a feeling it is boy trouble. This is the worse. Get her the book "Women who love too much" and read it with her. It will make the rest of her life so much easier.
Good Luck!
2006-09-29 04:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by mrscmmckim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her first, there may a reason for her slipping grades--physical or mental. If her grades are slipping because she just doesn't want to do the work, ask her what has changed and if you think it is a legit answer, reason it out with her. And when all else fails, the discipline her. Most likely, it will be easily solved by talking to her with respect. By the way, if she says it is an unfair teacher, be sure to believe her and follow through with the school.
2006-09-29 04:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my kids ( I have 14 year old boy/ girl twins) they get extra activites which cost money....( like hockey, bowling leauges, chorus, etc) At the beginning of the year we map out their activites in the order of time consumption, importance and cost. For every "C" ( or lower) they get on their report cards they lose a privledge until the grade goes back up at the next progress report. They are required to call their coach or teacher themselves and explain why they can not be there...... I only had to take away 1 privledge each in the 3 years we have done this. When then get a low grade on a test score it gives them the opportunity to ge tthe grade up themselves before they get punished.....also, they come home from school and get 1/2 hr to have a snack and check their email, etc...and then the homework gets done. If there homework isn't done before their activity starts they also must call their coach/teacher and explain why they can not go. It has worked for us.....
2006-09-29 04:08:06 · answer #3 · answered by jachooz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communicate WITH your daughter, find out whats up. She could be having emotional, mental health problems etc. Grounding may just add more to her problems and her grades may slip further or she may do so to rebel. Grades are not everything, if she's still passing but just down to B's from A's let her be.
2006-09-29 07:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HD's answer is good....
In addition I do something which I guess is really strange after talking to other parents.... I get personally involved. When the homework comes home, I check it, if there is an issue it gets resolved. If the test is not an accurate reflection of how the homework is, we (teacher, child, and I) sit down together to figure out the problem.
In my case the issues don't resolve themselves in a few weeks, we get them resolved in a few days. Thus all the distracting things the child did not have access to (TV, Phone, Friends, etc) become available in a timely order and the child does not learn how to do without (as I found with my first child, he found it was a whole lot funner to live without TV then it was to study.)
2006-09-29 05:12:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can relate because I have 3 teens of my own.
Most of the time when my kids start slipping it's because
they start caring more about what they want then what
you want. Generally it's because they want to be more like
their peers. Does your daughter have plans to go to college?
If so, keep reminding her of her original goal and stay as focused as possible. Having Fun and being with friends is extremely important as a teen, but remind her that there must be a balance of what we want and what me must do. (Of course like most teens, we parents are soooo stupid and have no idea what they go though these days, HA HA HA! again HA HA HA!)
Once you start a power struggle, it may last for a couple of years.
I would suggest suttle compromises. Ask your daughter what you can do to help her with her studies vs get your grades up or else. She feels like she wins and so do you. (Whatever the issue may be.)
I usually reserve "groundings" for outright misbehavior or broken rules.
2006-09-29 04:20:09 · answer #6 · answered by together420yrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you talk to her and ask her why her grades are slipping. maybe she is going through things in life that are causing her to slip. and if there is a reason why she is ask her what all of you can do about it.
2006-09-29 04:30:04 · answer #7 · answered by Daisy Carlos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first have a heart to heart with her about everything thats going on in her life- at that age we're in chaos and she could be experiencing all types of things that will influence how she does in school- if good grades are her norm, then something has changed in her life to where thats no longer true- talk to her- figure out whats changing and help her change it back-
let her know you expect mroe from her, AND that you believe in her, that she's capable, and that you'll love her even if they don't improve- she could be being lazy- or she could be really trying - she could be trying to "fit in" with kids who do't get the best grades, or she could be experienceing things in her life that are out of her control- who knows
talk to her and get her to open u and let you know why she's changed lately...
2006-09-29 04:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by miss m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take away distractions like going out on weekdays, internet, phone,ect. until the grades come up. Give her a specific goal to meet. "If your next test grades are ___ I will give you back ___"
Maybe she just needs help juggling everything. Be firm and stick to your guns. Specific goals and rewards will help.
2006-09-29 04:05:29 · answer #9 · answered by HD 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well my grades slipped in high school it might just be normal and they will go back up but grounding her might help just dont get to strict with it because then she will not raise her grades just to piss you off
2006-09-29 04:35:08 · answer #10 · answered by emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋